Loved Anyway !!!

If you’ve ever caught yourself, at any point in your life wondering-

“Would anyone still love me… if I wasn’t trying so hard?”
Or perhaps…
“Would they still accept me, still include me, still want me,if I stopped performing, stopped pleasing, stopped pretending?”

Then this- this is for you my dear reader.

If you ever wondered what would happen if you dropped the mask. If you let the tears come instead of swallowing them back. If you stopped being agreeable just to keep the peace and simply existed- messy, emotional, real.

Would love survive that version of you?

The one who is silent some days, sharp-edged on others.
The one whose softness hides beneath a strong act, whose truth is sometimes tangled, unsure or hard to hold?

If that question has ever lived quietly in your chest,
then let these words be your answer-

The world taught us early how to shine in ways that please. How to perform belonging. How to keep the room comfortable, even when we are falling apart inside.

But let me tell you something, not as advice, not as poetry, but as something that has lived in my heart-

The deepest kind of love, the rare, life-altering kind- is not the one that arrives when you’re at your best. It’s the one that stays when you’re not easy to be around. When your wounds are loud. When your walls are high. When your past walks into the room before you do and your self-doubt clings to every word you speak. It’s not love that demands you to be “better” before it offers warmth. It doesn’t turn away. It doesn’t bargain. It just stays. And when you taste that kind of love, even once, it changes you.

Not because it flatters you. But because it frees you.

You begin to unclench. To exhale. To believe, maybe for the first time, that you are not too much or too little. You are simply, deeply, heartbreakingly human. You stop shrinking to be accepted. You stop editing your soul to fit a frame that was never meant for you. Instead, you start standing tall in your flawed, magnificent skin and whisper-
Here I am. All of me. And I am loved.

That is the beginning of a homecoming. Not to someone else’s arms, but to your own heart.

Because being loved anyway, when the seams show, when the mascara runs, when the silence stretches, when your anger erupts like a storm, is where the sacred truly lives. It’s not the kind of love that wants something from you. It’s the kind that holds you when you have nothing left to give.

It’s the text that says- I’m here, even when you canceled again. It’s the hand that reaches for yours not when you’re glowing, but when you’re gasping. It’s someone sitting beside you in your storm- not trying to fix it, not handing you sunshine, just choosing not to leave.

And maybe, if we’re lucky, we taste this love not only from others,but from ourselves. Maybe we start to become the ones who stay. With our own hearts. With our mess. With our tired bodies and beautiful scars. And in that staying, with a gaze that holds instead of fixes, we begin to unlearn every version of ourselves we thought we had to become.

We are loved.
Still.
Not because of what we bring.
But because we exist.
And in that tender truth, the heart finally comes home…~ Latika Teotia

All Of Us Need Mercy Everyday !!!

Some people may become negative due to difficult experiences. Our kind presence can create a safe, non-judgmental space where they can begin to heal. By offering support and encouragement, we can help them shift towards a positive outlook and grow towards a brighter future. Your support can breathe life into someone’s world. A little support can go a long way in someone’s life… ~Latika Teotia

Be Uncompromisingly Straightforward !!!

Just reminding you- your mental well-being is of utmost importance. You don’t need to make adjustments especially when it comes to your values and beliefs. You don’t have to explain yourself and should be uncompromisingly straightforward when it comes to taking a stand on something YOU believe in. Let other people think what they wish to and leave if they want… YOU and YOUR peace is all that matters. That is all!!! ~Latika Teotia

Deep Gratitude !!!

I extend my love and gratitude to all of those lessons which helped me in developing a compassionate attitude towards life and people …~Latika Teotia

Give others a break !!!

Quite often we feel neglected because we expect others to ask about us, worry about our problems and feel disappointed and upset if they don’t. We must realize that people are so caught up with their own lives and their own problems that they hardly have any time to look around. If someone doesn’t give a personal touch, it doesn’t mean that they are indifferent or uncaring; on the contrary, their busy life, their problems, struggles and so on have turned them into what they are. But, that doesn’t mean you become like them. Just do what you would’ve expected others to do. Be concerned about the problems of others; empathize with those who’re passing through a rough patch; offer to help those in distress- in short, show that you care. ~Latika Teotia

Be kind !!!

We all should try our best to be kind and compassionate towards others no matter how different or weird their views or actions may seem. We must remember  that no one is perfect; everyone makes mistakes.~Latika Teotia

Your ability to trust people again will come with time !!!

I am speaking from experience that by sharing our issues or problems always and all the ways makes us feel better; it also helps us in finding solutions as well as in healing.

I did lose many people by withdrawing during the tough times in my life because of pretending to be brave and happy- though I desperately needed help and a shoulder to lean on.

Now when I look back, I feel I should have trusted the positive response from my near ones. Bad experiences from couple of toxic relationships doesn’t mean that we put everybody in the same bracket.

I am sure there are many sweet souls who would love to help you and even if they can’t, at least they will try to console you and help you in finding solutions or resources.

Since the time, I started opening my heart to my soul connections; I have started experiencing a lot of love, care and strength. Your soul connections won’t ever make you feel small or make you feel that you are a burden. They will be the wind beneath your wings. ~Latika Teotia

Rise above that petty ego !!!

In the movie “Love Story,” there is a line that says, “Love means never having to say that you’re sorry.” It is wrong, absolutely wrong. Love means- being the very first one to admit when you’re wrong and, also, always be the first one to apologize.

Never hesitate to say sorry, because ‘sorry’ is that magical word which not only demolishes walls (of misunderstanding) between people but also builds strong everlasting bridges between them.”

If you are thinking of mending fences or wishing to apologize to the people you have (or may have) wronged, at the top of your list should be your spouse, your children, your friends and your relatives because we tend to take them for granted. It is because they love us more than we realise, that they are not so vocal or expressive about their hurt. Remember just as we take their love for granted, they too put up with our harsh words/ ill behaviour. Making amends will bring much needed peace as well as healing and strengthen your relationship as well.

Don’t you think, today, this very moment is the right time to walk that extra mile, take that long overdue step and seek their forgiveness?

It will, indeed, be so very sad if you realized towards the end of your life that there were people who you should have apologize to. Remember the words that are not spoken NOW, will NEVER be spoken- actions that are not taken NOW will NEVER be taken.

So go ahead, rise above that petty ego, apologize unconditionally to all those people you have hurt and forever bury the hatchet. Write a letter, send an email, text a message, compose a WhatsApp note or walk across and JUST DO IT. Believe me, you will feel lighter and more cheerful . ~Latika Teotia