This Is Not The Time To Inspire !!! Let them be. Let them feel.Let them ache…

You’ve probably noticed it too. These days, it’s somehow become fashionable to have a spiritual vocabulary. Everywhere you turn, someone is talking about acceptance, forgiveness, healing, following your heart and of course, the reigning queen of all modern advice- mindfulness.

It’s on your feed, in your inbox, printed on eco-friendly notebooks. There’s always someone- young, radiant, vaguely enlightened-looking, sitting cross-legged, sipping a hazelnut latte or some cruelty-free kombucha, gently reminding the world to “just let go.” They say it like it’s the easiest thing in the world. As if letting go is as simple as unfollowing a brand you’ve outgrown.

And I don’t mean to sound unkind, really. It’s not their fault, not entirely. But I do wonder, often out loud, sometimes to myself, sometimes into a coffee mughow do they know what they’re talking about?

What exactly are they letting go of? A delayed Amazon order?
A slightly off-season Maldives vacation? The emotional burden of their oat milk not frothing properly? Because when you scratch the surface and not even too deeply, you find that a lot of this wisdom is floating. Untethered. It hasn’t been earned in the tough phase. It’s been collected. Quoted. Brushed in sepia filters and posted in soft, breathy tones.

And that’s where it begins to itch a little. Not because they’re talking.But because they’re preaching.

How do they understand the ache of standing in a long, sweaty bus queue every morning, wondering if you’ll even make it to work on time, because the boss doesn’t care, but your child’s school fee is due next week?

How do they understand what it feels like to love writing, painting, acting, or music, but to shelve those passions each day just to earn a living? Because passion needs paint. And paint needs money. How do you talk about dreams when, for so many, survival is the only goal?

The truth is- they don’t know. And honestly, that’s okay.
Until they start preaching.

Because let’s be real, for some of these so-called “privileged preachers,” hardship looks like this-

The car AC isn’t cooling properly because, heavens, the humidity is above 60%. Their tailor didn’t get the exact shade of mint green they envisioned for their Maldives vacation kaftan.
They’re emotionally distressed because their favourite sushi place in London was fully booked on a Friday night. And then there’s the full-blown existential crisis because their connecting flight got delayed and they nearly missed their spa-like Ayurvedic retreat in Sri Lanka, the one meant to ‘cleanse’ and ‘heal’ them from the trauma of…well, air travel, apparently.

Yet here they are- broadcasting advice about resilience. Forgive- they say. Surrender. Move on. All while sipping ginger turmeric shots and talking about ‘holding space’ from the comfort of plush rugs and ergonomic bean bags.

But real people, millions of them, carry bruises that don’t heal with affirmations. Real people live with heartbreak, rejection, betrayal, unspoken sacrifices and invisible weights. They don’t get the luxury of pausing life to heal. They have to carry on, because someone has to pay the bills, run the house or hold the family together.

So when someone tells you they’re sad, broken, grieving, angry, confused-
Don’t offer a quote from your sun-kissed yoga retreat.
Don’t silence them with a polished monologue.
Don’t condemn their feelings as if they’re an inconvenience to your curated calm.

Let them be. Let them feel. Let them rage. Let them ache. Let them curl up in bed. Because healing doesn’t start with advice.
It starts with being heard.

So here’s a humble request-If you haven’t walked through the fire, maybe don’t try to write the survival manual. Or at the very least- speak with humility. Be a listener, not a lecturer. Be a witness, not a performance. Be human, not a hashtag.

Because empathy isn’t spoken. It’s lived…~Latika Teotia

Deep Gratitude !!!

I extend my love and gratitude to all of those lessons which helped me in developing a compassionate attitude towards life and people …~Latika Teotia

Brave Act Of Self-Care !!!

Sharing our worries and problems makes them seem less light- I speak from my own personal experience. It also helps us in finding solutions as well as in healing. When I opened up to my friends and shared my worries as well as problems, I not only felt lighter but also began to heal faster because I felt loved and cared.

Yes, initially when I was passing through tough times and withdrew myself, I did lose some people because I was not confident about their understanding me as well as my problems and felt that they would , instead of helping, be judgmental. During those miserable days, I pretended to be tough, brave and happy- though I knew in my heart of hearts that I desperately needed a shoulder to weep on.

Now when I look back, I feel I should have trusted the positive response from my near ones. Bad experiences from a couple of toxic relationships doesn’t mean that we put everybody in the same category.

I am sure there are many kind and sweet souls who would go all out to mend a broken wing. Trust them to help us find our feet because they genuinely care for us and even if they can’t solve our problems they can at least hear us out.

Instead of clamming up during our times of distress we should trust our friends because there are genuine people who can lift us and be the wind beneath our wings. ~Latika Teotia

Just listen !!!

Though saying “me too” and “same here” allow others to open up and connect with us more but when someone is sharing his/her heart, we shouldn’t interrupt; as interruption might break their flow of thoughts which may make them forget the most important point or they just might get put off.

We should try to curb the desire of sharing our personal experience at that moment and just listen patiently. Maybe at some other  point of time , we can share that we also feel or think the similar way about that particular issue. ~Latika Teotia

Resisting won’t help !!!

Good or bad, happy or sad, everything that happens does so for a reason; no incident in this world is a stray occurrence. Don’t be unnecessarily perplexed or anxious about it.  ~Latika Teotia

Live to be a lighthouse !!!

Become a ray of hope for someone by helping them in whatever way you can to rebuild their life. Live to be a lighthouse for others and make the journey of your life worthwhile. ~Latika Teotia

Your life is your own, make yourself proud !!!

Don’t give power to others to control your emotions or make you feel inadequate or remind you of your limitations and generally have power over your life. Frankly speaking you don’t need such people- avoid them and keep them miles away from you. You alone are aware of your limitations and your strengths, I’m sure you are capable of handling your life well. God has made you worthy, so inspire, push and help yourself. Remember, God helps those who help themselves. ~Latika Teotia

What is God trying to tell you lately?

God keeps sending messages through the Universe, through His Angels and through a million different ways. Be open, look around and you will not only see but also hear what He has to convey. Listen to everything, not only to the good things but even to the uncomfortable ones- including criticism, harsh truths of life and so on. If you are willing as well as open He will find ways to tell you exactly what is meant for you and guide you on to the chosen path. ~Latika Teotia