When you feel that life’s being unfair to you and that no matter what you do you still wind up on the wrong side of everything, then you should do a bit of introspection and try to reach the root cause of your troubles. More often than not, you’ll find the cause lies within. It could be your negative thoughts or the tendency to give up easily or maybe you have a defeatist attitude or a combination of all the above. Once you find the cause, taking corrective measures will bring about a sea change in your attitude and your situation.~Latika Teotia
Trials always leave a huge impact on our lives and in their wake they help us in evolving. ~Latika Teotia
Learn from how others treated you. Learn from how YOU treated others. Learn from all the mistakes. Try to be more wiser in 2019. ~Latika Teotia
Along with age comes invaluable experience. Time is a great teacher, so are successes and failures. Nothing goes waste; everything that we go through, every occurrence and every incident leaves a lesson in its wake. It is this experience that builds in us an ability to recognize good friends from opportune or fair weather ones, a knack to distinguish right from wrong, patience to take sorrows in our stride and so on. And it is this that also finally makes us what we are. We should learn to enjoy our new self; we’ve earned it. ~Latika Teotia
Never lose faith in God. Remember that He is always there by our side watching over us and steering us in the right direction. We are continuously evolving into better human beings and growing spiritually. It is during this process of evolution that we become confused, restless, depressed and even hostile because we are not aware of this change in us. We may even feel that God has forsaken us- which couldn’t be farther from the truth, because He will never leave you, no matter how difficult the times may be. It is this ignorance that is the cause of all our miseries and confusions; the realization comes only once we share our worries with someone knowledgeable who tells us about God and His mysterious ways of working. So never lose faith, always repose your trust in God. ~Latika Teotia
Setbacks and challenges don’t occur to scare or punish us. Life expects us to grow and evolve in such situations. Accept them positively and deal with them accordingly. You possess immense strength so don’t give up and don’t give in.
As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia
All human beings evolve and grow with the passage of time- some are fast others take their own sweet time in doing so. It’s not for you to be judgmental about them, show patience, empathy and compassion. ~Latika Teotia
Every achievement, disappointment, up, down, calamity, misfortune, oversight, betrayal, adversity teaches us lessons. The important thing is learning, evolving and doing better for ourselves as well as the people we are living for. It’s okay to commit mistakes, to fail, to fall, to fumble and tumble but it’s not okay not to learn or to repeat the same mistakes. ~Latika Teotia
We undergo all kinds of pain and misery. There are times when nothing works well and the future appears to be bleak. There appears to be no end in sight and no relief from the continuous misery. We must always trust God and pray but it is times such as these that we must turn to Him with even bigger zeal. He is our Saviour and He alone can show us a way out. Adversity teaches us to be brave and we come out that much stronger from the experience. Perhaps, God wants to make us strong and independent, therefore, He is trying to remove our crutches- our over dependence on someone or something. This reminds me of a story about a poor family and their cow.
Once upon a time in a far away land, there lived a wise teacher and his disciple. During one of their travels, they came upon an extremely poor family staying in a miserable hut in a desolate place where there were hardly any crops or greenery. A man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired looking cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. The family shared whatever little they could with them. Later, the wise man thanked the owner and asked him, “This is a very poor and desolate place, far away from anything. I can see hardly any crops or vegetables growing. How do you survive?”
The man replied, “You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going. She gives us milk, some of it we turn into cheese. We go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for our needs – including food. When it rains we try to grow some vegetables wherever we can because it is rocky and there hardly any good land. That’s how we survive.”
The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple, “Go back, get the cow, take her to that cliff in front of us, and push her off it.”
The disciple could not believe his ears. “I cannot do that, master! How can we be so ungrateful, cruel and heartless? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they won’t be able to survive. Without the cow, they’ll all die!”
The wise man took a deep breath and repeated the order- a little firmly this time. Though outraged, the student obeyed his teacher. He returned to the hut, untied the cow and quietly led it to the edge of the cliff from where he pushed it. The animal fell down and died.
As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One day, the guilt became too much to bear so he left the wise man to see the family of that little hut. He wanted to find out what had happened to them; to help them out, apologize or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he saw that in place of the poor miserable hut stood a beautiful house with trees all around, a well manicured lawn, a swimming pool and several cars in the garage- in short a prosperous looking place. The family was celebrating their first million dollars.
The heart of the disciple froze and wondered what could have happened to that poor family. Without a doubt, they must have been forced to sell their land and leave. Perhaps at this very moment they must all be begging on the streets of some city. He approached the house and asked them the whereabouts of the family that had lived in poverty there several years ago.
“You’re looking at that family,” said the man. At that instant the disciple recognized the owner of the poor hut, only now he was much healthier, happier and confident. The woman too looked happy and the children were now healthy good looking teenagers.
He was dumbfounded, and asked, “What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short period?”
The man looked at the disciple and replied with a smile, “Yes I remember you and the wise man. After you left, our cow strayed and fell off the cliff. When I went down, I found it dead. Initially I cursed my bad luck. But we had no time to cry. In order to survive, we had to start doing other things. We discovered skills we didn’t even know we possessed. Because we were forced to come up with new ideas, new ways of doing things, we prospered and are now much better off than before.”
At times our biggest obstacle is over dependence on something fragile. The crutches that should be helping us to move ahead become chains that hinder our growth. So, perhaps, God wants to “push your cow off the cliff” and make you aware of your strengths. Trust Him and turn to Him for guidance.