At times we feel let down in relationships !!!

At times we feel let down in relationships when we don’t get what we expect. This could be because of two reasons. One, we don’t let the other person know what we expect. We may be more than perfect in our behaviour by being sensitive towards other persons, never doing anything that might hurt them or make them feel humiliated. We go the extra distance to make others comfortable in every sense.

In return, we expect them to behave likewise. The trouble starts when they don’t. We start burning inwards, start holding grudges and with the passage of time we make things worse for ourselves. All this while, the other person/s are not even aware of what we perceive to be unjust behaviour. The sensible thing to do is make the others aware of what we expect from them; sensitize them towards our feelings so that they behave with us the way we want them to. Second, there are people who are rude and crude by nature. Either drop them or be firm about what we expect from them. Make it crystal clear to them that either they mend their ways or they are out.

Remember, only you can love yourself and ensure that others respect you. ~Latika Teotia

Set limits and be firm about them !!!

Be kind to others; show that you care. But by being kind I don’t mean that you get used, that you get trampled all over and in the end there’s not very much left of your original self. Set limits and be firm about them. You can be pleasant, kind, caring and all that yet have your own space. Never look down on someone, give them the respect they deserve. How you treat others, especially those who are less fortunate or can’t repay, defines you and shows your true character. ~Latika Teotia

My ‘yes’ is very very exclusive !!!

Saying yes comes very easily to me and, more often than not, I get into situations that could have been avoided by using the magical two letter word, ‘NO’. Then I sit back and regret having said yes to something which is guaranteed to take away my peace of mind. So, enough of pandering to others, enough of indulging those who do not help me grow enough of saying ‘yes’ to those who are not good for my well being. I have consciously decided to be very very choosy about saying yes. I will say yes to my happiness, peace and growth. My ‘yes’ will also be given to those who inspire me and who motivate me to reach higher.  ~Latika Teotia