Negativity is toxic and spreads like smoke. Even though you may not be the cause or source of smoke, you are forced to be a passive inhaler- which is just as bad. It would be better if you consciously got rid of such company.~Latika Teotia
Sharing our worries and problems makes them seem less light- I speak from my own personal experience. It also helps us in finding solutions as well as in healing. When I opened up to my friends and shared my worries as well as problems, I not only felt lighter but also began to heal faster because I felt loved and cared.
Yes, initially when I was passing through tough times and withdrew myself, I did lose some people because I was not confident about their understanding me as well as my problems and felt that they would , instead of helping, be judgmental. During those miserable days, I pretended to be tough, brave and happy- though I knew in my heart of hearts that I desperately needed a shoulder to weep on.
Now when I look back, I feel I should have trusted the positive response from my near ones. Bad experiences from a couple of toxic relationships doesn’t mean that we put everybody in the same category.
I am sure there are many kind and sweet souls who would go all out to mend a broken wing. Trust them to help us find our feet because they genuinely care for us and even if they can’t solve our problems they can at least hear us out.
Instead of clamming up during our times of distress we should trust our friends because there are genuine people who can lift us and be the wind beneath our wings. ~Latika Teotia
It’s a known fact that, try as we might, we can’t please everyone. So instead of taking avoidable stress, we should just do our bit without expecting anything in return and focus more on nurturing those relationships which respect our being.~Latika Teotia
Due to low self-esteem, we start doubting ourselves so much that we feel that whatever we are doing is worthless, insignificant and of no consequence. For Heaven’s sake, never ever do that to yourself; you are precious and whatever you are doing- whether you are a homemaker or a working person with a low package or plain jobless- you and your life have a purpose.
All you need to do is love and trust yourself more. Don’t antagonize yourself. You will reach higher and be happier if you believe in yourself. Trust me, the day you start judging yourself less and start loving yourself more, you will experience a genuine “rebirth”.
You will be filled with positivity and enthusiasm which will reflect in your work as well. There should be no looking back as you are on the way to greater heights. So, discover your wings, spread them and fly high into the sky . ~Latika Teotia
It is only human to long for emotional support and there’s nothing wrong or demeaning about it. Loneliness is a major cause of depression and leads to negativity; thereafter it is downhill all the way. In such times people need emotional support of someone who believes in them. Seeking or accepting support during these times is very courageous and a positive step. In fact it is the self affirming support of family & friends, that pulls out people from depression and restores self confidence, self esteem as well as self belief. ~Latika Teotia
Manipulators make you feel down, depressed, dejected, sad, gloomy and miserable. They make you feel as if you have some very serious mental issues. If, you are surrounded by such people then remember that there is nothing wrong with you, it’s the other way round- good as well as normal people don’t really go around intimidating, demoralising and destroying others. Ignore them. I just hope you realize how special you are for your loved ones.
Love is a two way traffic; if you are trying to squeeze happiness out of someone or vice versa then it’ll be a selfish relationship. You have to be unconditionally giving and have to think about the needs of others as well. Yes you can tell the others what makes you happy but you have no business to force them to keep you contented. ~Latika Teotia
We have the choice to act, ignore or avoid while dealing with people. In our anxiety to be correct in our behaviour towards all, we bend backwards giving up our space to people who don’t deserve it. These include friends, relatives or even our own family. There may be an overbearing friend or a difficult child or even an uncompromising spouse who gives us stress by entering our space and attacking us relentlessly. The fault lies fairly and squarely on our shoulders for having allowed them to come this far. We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space and tell them that they can come this far and no more. We must stop putting up with nonsense that stresses us out. We must be firm, stop putting up with behaviour that doesn’t suit us and before long we’ll find that such persons will change their behaviour patterns. ~Latika Teotia
Believers believe in their own selves first- that’s the foundation for believing in others. For achieving anything, you have to have self confidence and faith in your own self. ~Latika Teotia
Forgive and forget what had happened. Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures. Relax !!! You are constantly evolving. Love yourself to bits.