Let’s glide into 2020 with a clean slate and an open mind. I have already started discarding the old baggage which had been weighing me down. I carry neither ill will nor any grudges against anyone; nor do I have any anger against those that wronged me, knowingly or unknowingly. I offer my sincere apologies to anyone who has been hurt by me or by my actions- believe me, it was unintentional. I am excited to welcome the New Year and go on this new exhilarating journey.~Latika Teotia
Don’t pine for those that have left you, don’t waste your precious emotions on those that have hurt you, instead, erase them from your memory. Though it’s easier said than done but unless you sever all ties with your hurtful past you won’t be able to get out of the quicksand of toxicity and you will never be able to completely heal yourself. So take hold of yourself, realise your strengths and work on them. You never know what beautiful connections are in store for you. ~Latika Teotia
Quite often we feel neglected because we expect others to ask about us, worry about our problems and feel disappointed and upset if they don’t. We must realize that people are so caught up with their own lives and their own problems that they hardly have any time to look around. If someone doesn’t give a personal touch, it doesn’t mean that they are indifferent or uncaring; on the contrary, their busy life, their problems, struggles and so on have turned them into what they are. But, that doesn’t mean you become like them. Just do what you would’ve expected others to do. Be concerned about the problems of others; empathize with those who’re passing through a rough patch; offer to help those in distress- in short, show that you care. ~Latika Teotia
Forget about all those past failures; forget about what happened in the past- it doesn’t matter. Concentrate on the present- on what lies ahead and just press on. Trust God to help you. ~Latika Teotia
Which heavy baggage have you been lugging around for so long? Which guilt have you been hiding? What is eating your very soul? And what is the price that you are paying for it? Is it worth it? Do old sorrows, setbacks, perceived insults, grudges, and so on matter in the long run? Don’t you think that the price is too high?
It’s high time to bury the dead- let the past be past. Don’t rake up dead issues and don’t water those poisonous weeds. Don’t give energy to something which is too heavy for your mind body and soul because it is likely to break the back of your endurance. Bathe yourself in the gentle glow of God’s unconditional grace and mercy. ~Latika Teotia
In the movie “Love Story,” there is a line that says, “Love means never having to say that you’re sorry.” It is wrong, absolutely wrong. Love means- being the very first one to admit when you’re wrong and, also, always be the first one to apologize.
Never hesitate to say sorry, because ‘sorry’ is that magical word which not only demolishes walls (of misunderstanding) between people but also builds strong everlasting bridges between them.”
If you are thinking of mending fences or wishing to apologize to the people you have (or may have) wronged, at the top of your list should be your spouse, your children, your friends and your relatives because we tend to take them for granted. It is because they love us more than we realise, that they are not so vocal or expressive about their hurt. Remember just as we take their love for granted, they too put up with our harsh words/ ill behaviour. Making amends will bring much needed peace as well as healing and strengthen your relationship as well.
Don’t you think, today, this very moment is the right time to walk that extra mile, take that long overdue step and seek their forgiveness?
It will, indeed, be so very sad if you realized towards the end of your life that there were people who you should have apologize to. Remember the words that are not spoken NOW, will NEVER be spoken- actions that are not taken NOW will NEVER be taken.
So go ahead, rise above that petty ego, apologize unconditionally to all those people you have hurt and forever bury the hatchet. Write a letter, send an email, text a message, compose a WhatsApp note or walk across and JUST DO IT. Believe me, you will feel lighter and more cheerful . ~Latika Teotia
Selective amnesia or forgetfulness is good for leading a happy life. Forget the uncomfortable incidents and be grateful for the good ones. Write your bitter memories on sand and the good ones on stone so that winds of time can quickly sweep away the bad memories and the memorable ones remain permanently etched.~Latika Teotia
As long as there are people in our lives of our past whom we have not forgiven, we are not free of them. We are carrying them on our back. They are with us all the time forever close, breathing down our necks, whispering into our ears, threatening our piece of our mind, a constant conscious or unconscious reminder of our pain or injustice. Only forgiveness has the power to break this chain of pain. Forgiveness cleanses the soul. For your own good, try to forgive some today , I know it is easier said than done but you can consciously try to practice forgiveness. A better way to live peacefully is to constantly forgive. ~Latika Teotia
Anything held for a long time becomes heavy. Try holding a glass of water for a minute, ten minutes, half an hour and an hour. Though no water has been added or taken out, the weight increases progressively. Same goes with our negative thoughts. The longer you hold on to them, the heavier they’ll become till you reach a stage when negativity takes over your complete self and drives out even a small speck of positivity.
I’m reminded of the story of a small boy who always used to fight with his classmates. One day the teacher called him aside and asked why he was getting into fights with everyone. The boy told her that they started the fight not he. She asked him why he had kicked John for no apparent reason. He replied that John had kicked him before lunch time and run away; since he could get hold of him (John) in the class he took revenge. And the boy narrated several other instances of his class mates who initiated the quarrel and he had only retaliated. The wise teacher told the boy to hence forth carry a bag with a dozen potatoes in it. He was not supposed to take it off even after reaching home and could take it off only when he went off to sleep. The boy did as was asked. He didn’t find any difficulty the first day. The next day he was slightly uncomfortable but could manage it through the day. And so his discomfort increased with each passing day, later even the potatoes started rotting and left a stench. Finally when the boy couldn’t take it anymore he approached the teacher and requested her to allow him to take the bag off. When the teacher asked him the reason he told her that the bag had become very heavy and letting out a rotten smell. The teacher then drew a comparison between the bag of potatoes and his desire to take revenge. She told him that when he carried such negativity it made him turn negative and he wasn’t able to enjoy the good things because his mind, like the rotten potatoes, was always cluttered with negativity and rotten thoughts.
So, learn to let go and move on. Don’t imprison your mind with negativity. Life is meant to be lived positively full of love and cheer ~Latika Teotia
Don’t rewind and play that sob sob sad song of your uncomfortable past. Don’t waste time; just move on and write a fresh chapter of your life. Start writing in a new book with a new pen and paint a story so beautiful, so stunning and so full of life that people should be inspired by it.
Life is too short to be wasted on remembering or reliving the sad past. It’s human to get hurt or to commit mistakes but don’t be stuck with it and cry over what’s over. Start afresh and surprise yourself with your inner strength; rise again as a stronger and more confident you. ~Latika Teotia