Selective amnesia or forgetfulness is good for leading a happy life. Forget the uncomfortable incidents and be grateful for the good ones. Write your bitter memories on sand and the good ones on stone so that winds of time can quickly sweep away the bad memories and the memorable ones remain permanently etched.~Latika Teotia
As long as there are people in our lives of our past whom we have not forgiven, we are not free of them. We are carrying them on our back. They are with us all the time forever close, breathing down our necks, whispering into our ears, threatening our piece of our mind, a constant conscious or unconscious reminder of our pain or injustice. Only forgiveness has the power to break this chain of pain. Forgiveness cleanses the soul. For your own good, try to forgive some today , I know it is easier said than done but you can consciously try to practice forgiveness. A better way to live peacefully is to constantly forgive. ~Latika Teotia
Anything held for a long time becomes heavy. Try holding a glass of water for a minute, ten minutes, half an hour and an hour. Though no water has been added or taken out, the weight increases progressively. Same goes with our negative thoughts. The longer you hold on to them, the heavier they’ll become till you reach a stage when negativity takes over your complete self and drives out even a small speck of positivity.
I’m reminded of the story of a small boy who always used to fight with his classmates. One day the teacher called him aside and asked why he was getting into fights with everyone. The boy told her that they started the fight not he. She asked him why he had kicked John for no apparent reason. He replied that John had kicked him before lunch time and run away; since he could get hold of him (John) in the class he took revenge. And the boy narrated several other instances of his class mates who initiated the quarrel and he had only retaliated. The wise teacher told the boy to hence forth carry a bag with a dozen potatoes in it. He was not supposed to take it off even after reaching home and could take it off only when he went off to sleep. The boy did as was asked. He didn’t find any difficulty the first day. The next day he was slightly uncomfortable but could manage it through the day. And so his discomfort increased with each passing day, later even the potatoes started rotting and left a stench. Finally when the boy couldn’t take it anymore he approached the teacher and requested her to allow him to take the bag off. When the teacher asked him the reason he told her that the bag had become very heavy and letting out a rotten smell. The teacher then drew a comparison between the bag of potatoes and his desire to take revenge. She told him that when he carried such negativity it made him turn negative and he wasn’t able to enjoy the good things because his mind, like the rotten potatoes, was always cluttered with negativity and rotten thoughts.
So, learn to let go and move on. Don’t imprison your mind with negativity. Life is meant to be lived positively full of love and cheer ~Latika Teotia
Don’t rewind and play that sob sob sad song of your uncomfortable past. Don’t waste time; just move on and write a fresh chapter of your life. Start writing in a new book with a new pen and paint a story so beautiful, so stunning and so full of life that people should be inspired by it.
Life is too short to be wasted on remembering or reliving the sad past. It’s human to get hurt or to commit mistakes but don’t be stuck with it and cry over what’s over. Start afresh and surprise yourself with your inner strength; rise again as a stronger and more confident you. ~Latika Teotia
In life we have two very clear choices; either keep remembering and reliving the painful past of disappointments, failures, heartbreaks, dismay, depression and so on or hug the joy of God’s grace as well as His love. I choose the latter because life is full of challenges- disappointments, failures and so on are a part of it.
There’s no point in brooding over the pain of yesteryears; it’s time to seek His guidance to lead a blissful and graceful life. Let go of the past and turn to the future with new hope; I’m sure it has a lot of good things in store for you. Go ahead, enjoy your present and let the future surprise you. ~Latika Teotia
At times we get caught in the web of negativity. We see dark clouds everywhere, nothing seems to go right, whatever we touch appears to wilt and we feel that nothing will ever go right again. Happy times appear to be behind us and all this starts reflecting in every area of our life.
It is precisely at times like these that we must learn to let go and move on. It could be your job where nothing seems to be working well for you- maybe you have a bad boss or unhelpful peers or uncooperative subordinates. It could be your relationship where no amount of stoking ignites the fire of yesteryears. It could even be your neighborhood and a bunch of too inquisitive or plain indifferent neighbours. Or it could be anything of this sort. In these so called gloomy periods of your life, learn to take a step back, look at your situation with detachment and before long the solution will stare at you in your face.
The earlier you decide that nothing is worth spoiling your peace of mind the better it’ll be for you. Change that uncomfortable job- if you can; say goodbye to that relationship; move out of that neighborhood or ignore them and likewise decide to get rid of anything that’s taking away your peace of mind.
The moment you decide to move on a huge weight lifts, you are filled with new found energy and you feel motivated to take on life once again. Things start falling into place once again and you begin to feel that life will be even better than before. All you have to do is to have the courage to change direction and fly. ~Latika Teotia
We undergo all kinds of pain and misery. There are times when nothing works well and the future appears to be bleak. There appears to be no end in sight and no relief from the continuous misery. We must always trust God and pray but it is times such as these that we must turn to Him with even bigger zeal. He is our Saviour and He alone can show us a way out. Adversity teaches us to be brave and we come out that much stronger from the experience. Perhaps, God wants to make us strong and independent, therefore, He is trying to remove our crutches- our over dependence on someone or something. This reminds me of a story about a poor family and their cow.
Once upon a time in a far away land, there lived a wise teacher and his disciple. During one of their travels, they came upon an extremely poor family staying in a miserable hut in a desolate place where there were hardly any crops or greenery. A man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired looking cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. The family shared whatever little they could with them. Later, the wise man thanked the owner and asked him, “This is a very poor and desolate place, far away from anything. I can see hardly any crops or vegetables growing. How do you survive?”
The man replied, “You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going. She gives us milk, some of it we turn into cheese. We go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for our needs – including food. When it rains we try to grow some vegetables wherever we can because it is rocky and there hardly any good land. That’s how we survive.”
The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple, “Go back, get the cow, take her to that cliff in front of us, and push her off it.”
The disciple could not believe his ears. “I cannot do that, master! How can we be so ungrateful, cruel and heartless? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they won’t be able to survive. Without the cow, they’ll all die!”
The wise man took a deep breath and repeated the order- a little firmly this time. Though outraged, the student obeyed his teacher. He returned to the hut, untied the cow and quietly led it to the edge of the cliff from where he pushed it. The animal fell down and died.
As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One day, the guilt became too much to bear so he left the wise man to see the family of that little hut. He wanted to find out what had happened to them; to help them out, apologize or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he saw that in place of the poor miserable hut stood a beautiful house with trees all around, a well manicured lawn, a swimming pool and several cars in the garage- in short a prosperous looking place. The family was celebrating their first million dollars.
The heart of the disciple froze and wondered what could have happened to that poor family. Without a doubt, they must have been forced to sell their land and leave. Perhaps at this very moment they must all be begging on the streets of some city. He approached the house and asked them the whereabouts of the family that had lived in poverty there several years ago.
“You’re looking at that family,” said the man. At that instant the disciple recognized the owner of the poor hut, only now he was much healthier, happier and confident. The woman too looked happy and the children were now healthy good looking teenagers.
He was dumbfounded, and asked, “What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short period?”
The man looked at the disciple and replied with a smile, “Yes I remember you and the wise man. After you left, our cow strayed and fell off the cliff. When I went down, I found it dead. Initially I cursed my bad luck. But we had no time to cry. In order to survive, we had to start doing other things. We discovered skills we didn’t even know we possessed. Because we were forced to come up with new ideas, new ways of doing things, we prospered and are now much better off than before.”
At times our biggest obstacle is over dependence on something fragile. The crutches that should be helping us to move ahead become chains that hinder our growth. So, perhaps, God wants to “push your cow off the cliff” and make you aware of your strengths. Trust Him and turn to Him for guidance.
Don’t burn your fingers trying to fit the broken pieces which are of no use and are way past their expiry date. . God has already written your life’s chapter let Him lead you. ~Latika Teotia
We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
God sends His Angels, disguised as human beings, when we feel that we are in deep trouble or when nothing seems to go right or when we feel lonely and unloved or when our world appears to have turned topsy turrvy. They appear out of the blue, put our life back on rails and depart.
The problem with us is that we get so attached to them that we just can’t reconcile to the idea of their ever leaving us- little realizing that they have temporarily come into our lives and are supposed to leave once their mission is accomplished. We mistake them for the people who are a permanent part of our lives and don’t understand why they should ever leave us. We find it very painful and have utmost difficulty in letting them go.
The essence of life is that we are all transient, each of us has a particular role to play that God has already scripted for us and after performing our parts we too must to bid adieu. The earlier we accept this the happier and more at peace we will be. ~Latika Teotia