Most of the times, whatever happens to you is beyond your control, you cannot do much about it, but how you react or respond to it is very much in your domain and you can certainly control it.
Your child spills a glass of milk on your best dress when you are about to go for an important appointment is beyond your control but how you react to it is very much in your control. If you scream, shout, rebuke and kick up a fuss you have only worsened the situation, because, in all probability your child may burst into uncontrollable sobs and you may wind up getting delayed or miss the appointment altogether.
On the other hand, if you realise that it’s better to mollify the child, go upstairs and change into a fresh set of clothes you may retain the peace. People can and will be rude to you at times.Whether you react angrily and keep it in your heart, brooding over it or decide to side step is entirely up to you.
Yes, you may point out the behaviour in gentle but firm language and ensure that they don’t cross the line, but picking up a fight, reacting similarly or keeping a grudge in your heart will not help matters and you will be only harming yourself. So always act, don’t react and worsen things. ~Latika Teotia
You’re responsible for creating your own happiness, so break away from anyone or anything that sends negative vibes. After all it’s your life; do what makes you happy. ~Latika Teotia
Selective amnesia or forgetfulness is good for leading a happy life. Forget the uncomfortable incidents and be grateful for the good ones. Write your bitter memories on sand and the good ones on stone so that winds of time can quickly sweep away the bad memories and the memorable ones remain permanently etched.~Latika Teotia
Cutting ties from toxic relationships doesn’t make you a quitter. I am sure you must have tried your best and given your 100 % . But there is a limit to everything. Know that some people just don’t deserve that much attention and efforts. So, best would be to protect your peace and energy for better things and people. Yes … it’s damn difficult and one of the hardest decision to burn bridge but it’s a right to do . ~Latika Teotia
The less energy you fritter away on negativity, the more you will have for utilizing on things that matter. ~Latika Teotia
We have the choice to act, ignore or avoid while dealing with people. In our anxiety to be correct in our behaviour towards all, we bend backwards giving up our space to people who don’t deserve it. These include friends, relatives or even our own family. There may be an overbearing friend or a difficult child or even an uncompromising spouse who gives us stress by entering our space and attacking us relentlessly. The fault lies fairly and squarely on our shoulders for having allowed them to come this far. We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space and tell them that they can come this far and no more. We must stop putting up with nonsense that stresses us out. We must be firm, stop putting up with behaviour that doesn’t suit us and before long we’ll find that such persons will change their behaviour patterns. ~Latika Teotia
We all are busy in our lives handling our homes, work, various issues, ailments and so on… sometimes we don’t have a second to spare even for our own selves, so caught up with life we are…
But, despite our problems, despite the pressure of anything, despite all kinds of challenges we face in our daily lives, if we can still just pause and stop to look at someone else’s problems, if we can just smile at the other person, believe me, we would have not only made someone’s day but will also feel that our own burden has become lesser and our problems may not appear to be that big after all! That’s the beauty of caring for others.
Have you noticed how much at peace those people are who walk up to a perfect stranger and lend a helping hand, without being asked to and without expecting anything in return? That is what unconditional caring for others and helping others do to you. That is what service, good deeds and kindness do; they help the receiver as well as the giver. ~Latika Teotia
Happy persons SEE joy in everything; they don’t go SEARCHING for it. They see God’s miracles and learn to enjoy them. The flight of a bird, rainbow in the sky, fluttering of butterflies, children playing with gay abandon, an old couple in the park enjoying their togetherness, sunrise, clouds in the sky, a clear sunny day or the rhythm of the falling rain, and so many countless things fill them with joy.
Happy persons aren’t necessarily the rich or the famous ones. They are content with what they have and are delighted by even the smallest thing. Learn to enjoy what you have instead of hankering for more. Don’t be overly concerned about the past and don’t be anxious about the future either otherwise you’ll not be able to enjoy the present. ~Latika Teotia
O God, I pray that the people who are passing through difficult times should find solace while remembering and praying to you. Make their faith in you even stronger than before- they need you even more than before.