Sharing our worries and problems makes them seem less light- I speak from my own personal experience. It also helps us in finding solutions as well as in healing. When I opened up to my friends and shared my worries as well as problems, I not only felt lighter but also began to heal faster because I felt loved and cared.
Yes, initially when I was passing through tough times and withdrew myself, I did lose some people because I was not confident about their understanding me as well as my problems and felt that they would , instead of helping, be judgmental. During those miserable days, I pretended to be tough, brave and happy- though I knew in my heart of hearts that I desperately needed a shoulder to weep on.
Now when I look back, I feel I should have trusted the positive response from my near ones. Bad experiences from a couple of toxic relationships doesn’t mean that we put everybody in the same category.
I am sure there are many kind and sweet souls who would go all out to mend a broken wing. Trust them to help us find our feet because they genuinely care for us and even if they can’t solve our problems they can at least hear us out.
Instead of clamming up during our times of distress we should trust our friends because there are genuine people who can lift us and be the wind beneath our wings. ~Latika Teotia
Cutting ties from toxic relationships doesn’t make you a quitter. I am sure you must have tried your best and given your 100 % . But there is a limit to everything. Know that some people just don’t deserve that much attention and efforts. So, best would be to protect your peace and energy for better things and people. Yes … it’s damn difficult and one of the hardest decision to burn bridge but it’s a right to do . ~Latika Teotia
The less energy you fritter away on negativity, the more you will have for utilizing on things that matter. ~Latika Teotia
Confrontation leads to more confrontation and ultimately it results in loss of peace of mind. Give up the tendency to pick up issues or quarrels at the drop of a hat, don’t plan or plot revenge and so on. That path is one of destruction and nothing good will ever come out of it. As a first step ignore smaller issues, stop reacting, give up anger and start seeing a friend in everyone. Very soon you’ll find peace and your changed attitude will be obvious on your face as well as in your body language and all this will pass over to your relationship with others. It’s very difficult to frown at someone who’s smiling at you. Make that smile your permanent garment.
Don’t hesitate to take the first step for anything that is positive. If someone has hurt you (knowingly or unknowingly) it’s better to clarify. Chances are that it was a small issue or misunderstanding and became big due to lack of communication. Waiting for the other person to take the first step to end an issue is nothing but an ego issue. Don’t sacrifice relationship at the altar of petty egos. ~Latika Teotia
Love is a two way traffic; if you are trying to squeeze happiness out of someone or vice versa then it’ll be a selfish relationship. You have to be unconditionally giving and have to think about the needs of others as well. Yes you can tell the others what makes you happy but you have no business to force them to keep you contented. ~Latika Teotia
At times we get caught in the web of negativity. We see dark clouds everywhere, nothing seems to go right, whatever we touch appears to wilt and we feel that nothing will ever go right again. Happy times appear to be behind us and all this starts reflecting in every area of our life.
It is precisely at times like these that we must learn to let go and move on. It could be your job where nothing seems to be working well for you- maybe you have a bad boss or unhelpful peers or uncooperative subordinates. It could be your relationship where no amount of stoking ignites the fire of yesteryears. It could even be your neighborhood and a bunch of too inquisitive or plain indifferent neighbours. Or it could be anything of this sort. In these so called gloomy periods of your life, learn to take a step back, look at your situation with detachment and before long the solution will stare at you in your face.
The earlier you decide that nothing is worth spoiling your peace of mind the better it’ll be for you. Change that uncomfortable job- if you can; say goodbye to that relationship; move out of that neighborhood or ignore them and likewise decide to get rid of anything that’s taking away your peace of mind.
The moment you decide to move on a huge weight lifts, you are filled with new found energy and you feel motivated to take on life once again. Things start falling into place once again and you begin to feel that life will be even better than before. All you have to do is to have the courage to change direction and fly. ~Latika Teotia
If people hurt you don’t ask them the reason; instead let them keep guessing why you never bothered to find out. If someone breaks relationship with you don’t cry, fret or fume; instead let them speculate why you didn’t. If people cheat you, don’t point out; instead let them wonder why you didn’t. Let your silence speak louder than your words. Remember Karma will teach them a befitting lesson in due course of time. ~Latika Teotia
I have come to realize that relationships which last a lifetime are of those where we accept each other as we are; where we give each other space and freedom for growing as well as evolving. Turn your energy into living your own life and minding your own business. ~Latika Teotia
Stop being used and ill-treated by allowing people to have their way. Stand up for yourself and what is right. The more you give in to other people’s whims and fancies the more they will misuse you. Let them know that your gentleness should not be mistaken for weakness and that you are strong enough to protect your rights. Make boundaries and don’t allow others to cross that line- your space belongs to you, no one has the right to violate it. You will not only be able to redeem yourself but will also be able to recognize true friends; those that leave weren’t yours in the first place. Don’t make or retain relationships at the cost of your self esteem and peace. ~Latika Teotia