Cutting ties from toxic relationships doesn’t make you a quitter. I am sure you must have tried your best and given your 100 % . But there is a limit to everything. Know that some people just don’t deserve that much attention and efforts. So, best would be to protect your peace and energy for better things and people. Yes … it’s damn difficult and one of the hardest decision to burn bridge but it’s a right to do . ~Latika Teotia
We have the choice to act, ignore or avoid while dealing with people. In our anxiety to be correct in our behaviour towards all, we bend backwards giving up our space to people who don’t deserve it. These include friends, relatives or even our own family. There may be an overbearing friend or a difficult child or even an uncompromising spouse who gives us stress by entering our space and attacking us relentlessly. The fault lies fairly and squarely on our shoulders for having allowed them to come this far. We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space and tell them that they can come this far and no more. We must stop putting up with nonsense that stresses us out. We must be firm, stop putting up with behaviour that doesn’t suit us and before long we’ll find that such persons will change their behaviour patterns. ~Latika Teotia
We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
More often than not people will rub you the wrong way expecting a strong reaction. Disappoint them by side stepping; your peace should be more important to you than proving yourself right or having the last word. As it is most of such arguments take place just to trigger you or bring you down to their level. It’s better to remain quiet and send them loving vibes and peace. Exercise restraint and self control always- act, don’t react. ~Latika Teotia
Anything that drains your emotions or fills you with negativity is not good for your soul; avoid such people, thoughts, situations and so on. Surround yourself with positive people whose company gives you happiness and peace of mind.~Latika Teotia
Life throws up all kinds of people. Some may be kind, gentle, caring and loving; others may be indifferent who live through without making any difference to this world and there yet others who are loud, demanding as well as dominating. It is the last variety that always takes others for granted; they WILL have their way even if it means trampling others and even hurting their feeling in the bargain. They are like predators- beasts of prey. They will pounce on the weak, and won’t hesitate to rip them apart, if it suits them. They sniff out the kind hearted and caring people. Don’t waste your energy in trying to mould them because, firstly, it’s very difficult to change them and secondly it’s most certainly not YOUR duty to change anyone. What you should do instead is to send out a very clear message that your kindness, your gentleness or your caring nature are NOT your weaknesses- they are your strength. This nature of yours gives you the courage and the strength to do what you do. Believe me; they do not have the courage to take you on because they are like bullies who are basically cowards at heart. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t ever allow the fear of losing a relationship cause you to submit to being controlled or manipulated. Any relationship worth having must be one of “Mutual Love, Respect & Understanding”. Don’t give in! You are “well-able”. Don’t let anyone play upon your supposed “weaknesses” God has given you wisdom to run your own life. So, you don’t really need anyone constantly telling you what to do and what not to do. Know Your Worth !!! ~Latika Teotia
Sending love to all those who are trying to cope up with toxicity, indifference from their near and dear ones, those trying to overcome heartbreaks and to all those who are feeling unloved. ~Latika Teotia
If your relationship is not working out, move on. Initially you may be scared because of the perceived uncertainties; don’t panic. You may feel miserable and cry. The process will take time. Be patient; learn to be tough and strong. Just move on and move away. The sacrifice will be worth it. Because at the end of the road is a beautiful rainbow. Your joy at the new found and well earned peace as well as freedom will be worth it. ~Latika Teotia
If you can’t find fulfillment in a relationship it’s better to move on. You may feel that you have given your all and the other may feel that it’s not sufficient. Love is not a favour, you are equal partners; either it’s there or it isn’t. So instead of trying to hold grudges and feeling bitter, it’s better to forgive, forget and move on. ~Latika Teotia