“Giving is a game in which everybody wins.”Why I say this is because when you do something nice or help someone unconditionally, the brain is flooded with serotonin ,the feel good chemical that helps to energize you. That’s why you feel happy when you share your gifts.If you notice the successful people are the ones who share their gifts without holding them back. By sharing with their colleagues,they create a powerful network of people who trust and support them. I won’t be wrong in saying that you can enjoy a living only by how much you give. So beautifully written by Harold Abbott~
“Do something for somebody gladly;
It will sweeten your every care.
In sharing the sorrows of others,
Your own are less hard to bear.”
We all are busy in our lives handling our homes, work, various issues, ailments and so on… sometimes we don’t have a second to spare even for our own selves, so caught up with life we are…
But, despite our problems, despite the pressure of anything, despite all kinds of challenges we face in our daily lives, if we can still just pause and stop to look at someone else’s problems, if we can just smile at the other person, believe me, we would have not only made someone’s day but will also feel that our own burden has become lesser and our problems may not appear to be that big after all! That’s the beauty of caring for others.
Have you noticed how much at peace those people are who walk up to a perfect stranger and lend a helping hand, without being asked to and without expecting anything in return? That is what unconditional caring for others and helping others do to you. That is what service, good deeds and kindness do; they help the receiver as well as the giver. ~Latika Teotia
You don’t have to be too harsh on yourself when things go wrong and punish yourself for every mistake- in fact I feel that you don’t need to chastise yourself at all. When we condemn or castigate ourselves for any folly, we are letting loose an air of negativity- punishments have this uncanny trait of lowering the morale and bringing gloom all around. So, it’s okay to commit mistakes- we all do- learn from them and move ahead. ~Latika Teotia
Become a ray of hope for someone by helping them in whatever way you can to rebuild their life. Live to be a lighthouse for others and make the journey of your life worthwhile. ~Latika Teotia
Trauma makes a person helpless and the reaction varies from victim to victim. While some become total introverts by creating a defensive wall around them others at least permit their close ones in and do share some of their experiences. Some become aggressive and they react to even the smallest touch. Some others don’t even like people caring for them; they prefer to slink away into darkness and are afraid of light. And of course there are the stronger ones who take a stand and face the situation head on.
In all these cases we must learn to empathise with the victims. If someone known to you has been through some traumatic experience, try to understand and give them space as well as time.
Don’t force them to share and don’t keep reminding them and making them relive the hurtful experience. Make them comfortable first and share awareness about various options like legal help, therapies, counseling and so on.
No one should be left alone with the wounds of a trauma. Fill their lives with love, kindness, gentleness, and sympathy. Let them know that they are not alone- we all care. ~Latika Teotia
May God show light to those who are groping in the dark not knowing which direction to take and in the process hurting others- knowingly or unknowingly. A single humble candle can defeat even the most stubborn darkness; an enlightened person can clear the cobwebs of even the most confused mind. May God enlighten everyone- especially those that hurt others. ~Latika Teotia
There’s nothing wrong with victims of any kind of abuse; they are perfectly normal. It is the ones that abuse others, who are not normal. It is they who have twisted minds and need to be corrected or counselled.
Unfortunately people look down upon the abused victims as if they’ve done something wrong and make them feel ashamed as well as guilty- which is not fair and absolutely incorrect. Victims must be shown kindness, encouraged and rehabilitated at the earliest and those who abused them must be ostracized.
If you have been the victim of any kind of abuse, take down those walls of guilt, don’t hide behind dark doors, face the light and take charge of your life. Seek support- if required.
You must understand that you have done nothing wrong and must not feel guilty or have low self esteem of yourself; it is the one who has abused you who should be running for cover. All you need at this point of time is love, self love and lots of self confidence. Believe in yourself and have faith in your ability to bounce back. ~Latika Teotia
We help people only during time of calamities, extreme pain, sorrow and losses which is a very noble and kind. But what about other regular or normal days? Why not support and be in touch otherwise too. There are many lonely ailing people living in forced solitude. I’m sure they would appreciate if people dropped in regularly to alleviate their loneliness. ~Latika Teotia