If you cling to your resentment, you are consigning yourself to a lonely, bitter life and running the risk of developing serious emotional problems. Know that- no situation can ever be improved by our resentment. It can only be made worse; and we are twice the victim –firstly of the event and then of our resentment of it. ~Latika Teotia
Which heavy baggage have you been lugging around for so long? Which guilt have you been hiding? What is eating your very soul? And what is the price that you are paying for it? Is it worth it? Do old sorrows, setbacks, perceived insults, grudges, and so on matter in the long run? Don’t you think that the price is too high?
It’s high time to bury the dead- let the past be past. Don’t rake up dead issues and don’t water those poisonous weeds. Don’t give energy to something which is too heavy for your mind body and soul because it is likely to break the back of your endurance. Bathe yourself in the gentle glow of God’s unconditional grace and mercy. ~Latika Teotia
Selective amnesia or forgetfulness is good for leading a happy life. Forget the uncomfortable incidents and be grateful for the good ones. Write your bitter memories on sand and the good ones on stone so that winds of time can quickly sweep away the bad memories and the memorable ones remain permanently etched.~Latika Teotia
Anything held for a long time becomes heavy. Try holding a glass of water for a minute, ten minutes, half an hour and an hour. Though no water has been added or taken out, the weight increases progressively. Same goes with our negative thoughts. The longer you hold on to them, the heavier they’ll become till you reach a stage when negativity takes over your complete self and drives out even a small speck of positivity.
I’m reminded of the story of a small boy who always used to fight with his classmates. One day the teacher called him aside and asked why he was getting into fights with everyone. The boy told her that they started the fight not he. She asked him why he had kicked John for no apparent reason. He replied that John had kicked him before lunch time and run away; since he could get hold of him (John) in the class he took revenge. And the boy narrated several other instances of his class mates who initiated the quarrel and he had only retaliated. The wise teacher told the boy to hence forth carry a bag with a dozen potatoes in it. He was not supposed to take it off even after reaching home and could take it off only when he went off to sleep. The boy did as was asked. He didn’t find any difficulty the first day. The next day he was slightly uncomfortable but could manage it through the day. And so his discomfort increased with each passing day, later even the potatoes started rotting and left a stench. Finally when the boy couldn’t take it anymore he approached the teacher and requested her to allow him to take the bag off. When the teacher asked him the reason he told her that the bag had become very heavy and letting out a rotten smell. The teacher then drew a comparison between the bag of potatoes and his desire to take revenge. She told him that when he carried such negativity it made him turn negative and he wasn’t able to enjoy the good things because his mind, like the rotten potatoes, was always cluttered with negativity and rotten thoughts.
So, learn to let go and move on. Don’t imprison your mind with negativity. Life is meant to be lived positively full of love and cheer ~Latika Teotia
Don’t rewind and play that sob sob sad song of your uncomfortable past. Don’t waste time; just move on and write a fresh chapter of your life. Start writing in a new book with a new pen and paint a story so beautiful, so stunning and so full of life that people should be inspired by it.
Life is too short to be wasted on remembering or reliving the sad past. It’s human to get hurt or to commit mistakes but don’t be stuck with it and cry over what’s over. Start afresh and surprise yourself with your inner strength; rise again as a stronger and more confident you. ~Latika Teotia
At times we get caught in the web of negativity. We see dark clouds everywhere, nothing seems to go right, whatever we touch appears to wilt and we feel that nothing will ever go right again. Happy times appear to be behind us and all this starts reflecting in every area of our life.
It is precisely at times like these that we must learn to let go and move on. It could be your job where nothing seems to be working well for you- maybe you have a bad boss or unhelpful peers or uncooperative subordinates. It could be your relationship where no amount of stoking ignites the fire of yesteryears. It could even be your neighborhood and a bunch of too inquisitive or plain indifferent neighbours. Or it could be anything of this sort. In these so called gloomy periods of your life, learn to take a step back, look at your situation with detachment and before long the solution will stare at you in your face.
The earlier you decide that nothing is worth spoiling your peace of mind the better it’ll be for you. Change that uncomfortable job- if you can; say goodbye to that relationship; move out of that neighborhood or ignore them and likewise decide to get rid of anything that’s taking away your peace of mind.
The moment you decide to move on a huge weight lifts, you are filled with new found energy and you feel motivated to take on life once again. Things start falling into place once again and you begin to feel that life will be even better than before. All you have to do is to have the courage to change direction and fly. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t burn your fingers trying to fit the broken pieces which are of no use and are way past their expiry date. . God has already written your life’s chapter let Him lead you. ~Latika Teotia
We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
God sends His Angels, disguised as human beings, when we feel that we are in deep trouble or when nothing seems to go right or when we feel lonely and unloved or when our world appears to have turned topsy turrvy. They appear out of the blue, put our life back on rails and depart.
The problem with us is that we get so attached to them that we just can’t reconcile to the idea of their ever leaving us- little realizing that they have temporarily come into our lives and are supposed to leave once their mission is accomplished. We mistake them for the people who are a permanent part of our lives and don’t understand why they should ever leave us. We find it very painful and have utmost difficulty in letting them go.
The essence of life is that we are all transient, each of us has a particular role to play that God has already scripted for us and after performing our parts we too must to bid adieu. The earlier we accept this the happier and more at peace we will be. ~Latika Teotia
You live only once so make the most of it. Don’t slog so hard that work becomes your life; instead enjoy your work and set limits or boundaries, don’t cross them. Similarly love, but do that to make yourself happy, love for a life of fulfillment, love if it makes you ‘complete’ love because you ‘want’ to and not because you ‘have’ to; it’ll be a big mistake if you love out of compulsion or to please someone or because someone wants you to. Dream and fulfill them; set achievable goals.
Don’t live in utopia, be grounded to reality; strike a balance between what you want and what you can achieve- whether it’s work or relationship or anything else. This will lead to a sense of satisfaction and avoid frustration. Don’t cling on to something which has ceased to be yours- whether it’s a failed relationship or work or anything else- learn to let go; if it’s giving you tensions or is a drag on your happiness, it’s best to get rid of it at the earliest. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. It may be difficult initially but with the passage of time you’ll find that it was the best option. ~Latika Teotia