Confrontation leads to more confrontation and ultimately it results in loss of peace of mind. Give up the tendency to pick up issues or quarrels at the drop of a hat, don’t plan or plot revenge and so on. That path is one of destruction and nothing good will ever come out of it. As a first step ignore smaller issues, stop reacting, give up anger and start seeing a friend in everyone. Very soon you’ll find peace and your changed attitude will be obvious on your face as well as in your body language and all this will pass over to your relationship with others. It’s very difficult to frown at someone who’s smiling at you. Make that smile your permanent garment.
Let’s open our hearts a little wider and make a conscious choice to be kind, caring, generous, patient, accepting, forgiving, and selfless. ~Latika Teotia
A kind, happy, positive and God loving person treats others with love and respect. However, we come across grumpy, angry and negative persons in our lives who are always ready to pick up a quarrel and who have nothing good to say about anyone. Don’t be upset by such people, they’ve been wired to behave like that because of circumstances or conditions beyond their control. They are like garbage trucks carrying foul smelling waste and ready to dump it at the first opportunity. This reminds me of the story of the taxi driver and the garbage truck.
One day I hopped into a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane, well within the speed limit when suddenly a car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded and just missed the other car by a few inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was really friendly.
Perplexed I asked him, ‘Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!’
This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck.’
He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around disturbed, full of frustration, anger and disappointment. They are like garbage trucks. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they’ll dump it on you. Don’t take it personally. Just smile and move on. Don’t accept their garbage and in turn spread it to other people at work, home or on the streets.
So next time you come across such people, forgive them, smile at them, send them blessings and just move on. You never know that this may change their attitude and their outlook towards life. ~Latika Teotia
Sometimes in our exuberance we overstep ourselves. Someone may be passing through a difficult time and no sooner do they start talking about their problems than we interrupt them with quick fix solutions. We couldn’t be more wrong in our approach. Perhaps all that the other person wants is to unwind and just talk. Nothing more. People want to be assured that you’ll be there when they need you. Right now all they want you to do is to sympathetically lend your ear! It is always advisable to be a good listener. ~Latika Teotia
You don’t have to be too harsh on yourself when things go wrong and punish yourself for every mistake- in fact I feel that you don’t need to chastise yourself at all. When we condemn or castigate ourselves for any folly, we are letting loose an air of negativity- punishments have this uncanny trait of lowering the morale and bringing gloom all around. So, it’s okay to commit mistakes- we all do- learn from them and move ahead. ~Latika Teotia
Be kind to others; show that you care. But by being kind I don’t mean that you get used, that you get trampled all over and in the end there’s not very much left of your original self. Set limits and be firm about them. You can be pleasant, kind, caring and all that yet have your own space. Never look down on someone, give them the respect they deserve. How you treat others, especially those who are less fortunate or can’t repay, defines you and shows your true character. ~Latika Teotia
We are always in conflict with our own selves. There are two kinds of voices within all of us- the voice of love, empathy, compassion, reason, care for others and so on while the other one is of selfishness, greed, mistrust, jealousy, fear, anxiety and so on. The first voice is benevolent, kind, trusting, and benign; it can be related to our higher selves and puts us at ease. The other one is full of anxiety, distrust and fear; it relates to our lower selves and will never allow us to be at peace.
God created us in His own image, so we have no right to let Him down. Live a life full of care, empathy and compassion. Do not compare yourself with others, nor should you be overly concerned about what others might think of you or bother yourself if others are doing better than you. Just do what your conscience dictates to you; listen to the first voice and live a life of goodness.
O God keep me motivated enough to spread loving vibrations, magnanimous enough to ignore small stuff and tender enough to understand others better.~Latika Teotia
Love is all encompassing. It conquers all, even the most hard hearted. If you want an enriched life then learn to be kind and gentle. Learn to spread love and joy. If you want to lead a carefree life, then free yourself from this web- of self constructed walls and unnecessary rules- that you have woven around yourself. ~Latika Teotia
To fully and truly and fully appreciate life and its various facets you must see them with an open mind. If you start analyzing everything, you’ll end up leading an incomplete life with lots of missing pieces.
If you try to weigh charity with money you’ll never be able to feel the true satisfaction of giving.
If you try to measure relationship on usefulness template, you’ll never be able to comprehend the trust, love and bonding that relationship encompasses.
If you try to calculate friendship from the angle of profit loss you’ll never be able to understand the meaning of friendship and sacrifice.
Live life through the prism of your heart and not under the cold gaze of your cold calculative mind. Some things are absolutely priceless, don’t try to put a price tag on them. ~Latika Teotia