Trauma makes a person helpless and the reaction varies from victim to victim. While some become total introverts by creating a defensive wall around them others at least permit their close ones in and do share some of their experiences. Some become aggressive and they react to even the smallest touch. Some others don’t even like people caring for them; they prefer to slink away into darkness and are afraid of light. And of course there are the stronger ones who take a stand and face the situation head on.
In all these cases we must learn to empathise with the victims. If someone known to you has been through some traumatic experience, try to understand and give them space as well as time.
Don’t force them to share and don’t keep reminding them and making them relive the hurtful experience. Make them comfortable first and share awareness about various options like legal help, therapies, counseling and so on.
No one should be left alone with the wounds of a trauma. Fill their lives with love, kindness, gentleness, and sympathy. Let them know that they are not alone- we all care. ~Latika Teotia
Life throws up all kinds of people. Some may be kind, gentle, caring and loving; others may be indifferent who live through without making any difference to this world and there yet others who are loud, demanding as well as dominating. It is the last variety that always takes others for granted; they WILL have their way even if it means trampling others and even hurting their feeling in the bargain. They are like predators- beasts of prey. They will pounce on the weak, and won’t hesitate to rip them apart, if it suits them. They sniff out the kind hearted and caring people. Don’t waste your energy in trying to mould them because, firstly, it’s very difficult to change them and secondly it’s most certainly not YOUR duty to change anyone. What you should do instead is to send out a very clear message that your kindness, your gentleness or your caring nature are NOT your weaknesses- they are your strength. This nature of yours gives you the courage and the strength to do what you do. Believe me; they do not have the courage to take you on because they are like bullies who are basically cowards at heart. ~Latika Teotia