Don’t mistake indifference for peace of mind. At best it is resigning to fate or giving up and at worst escapism. When we find that we are not able to succeed we tend to let go or withdraw, hoping that the problem will go away. It doesn’t work that way; this is an escapist’s attitude or a weak person’s response. Be strong; take problems head on; be open to suggestions, mid course corrections and changes. That is the best way to gain inner peace. ~Latika Teotia
Motivation by and through others alone isn’t sufficient to keep you going because it vanishes when confronted with big unexpected challenges. It may keep you going initially for a few months but doesn’t last very long. So what should you do???
Self motivation and belief in your own self will see you through. The belief in your own self earned over the years facing challenges big and small makes you confident of taking on all kinds of challenges as well as tackling every situation. ~Latika Teotia
We undergo all kinds of pain and misery. There are times when nothing works well and the future appears to be bleak. There appears to be no end in sight and no relief from the continuous misery. We must always trust God and pray but it is times such as these that we must turn to Him with even bigger zeal. He is our Saviour and He alone can show us a way out. Adversity teaches us to be brave and we come out that much stronger from the experience. Perhaps, God wants to make us strong and independent, therefore, He is trying to remove our crutches- our over dependence on someone or something. This reminds me of a story about a poor family and their cow.
Once upon a time in a far away land, there lived a wise teacher and his disciple. During one of their travels, they came upon an extremely poor family staying in a miserable hut in a desolate place where there were hardly any crops or greenery. A man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired looking cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. The family shared whatever little they could with them. Later, the wise man thanked the owner and asked him, “This is a very poor and desolate place, far away from anything. I can see hardly any crops or vegetables growing. How do you survive?”
The man replied, “You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going. She gives us milk, some of it we turn into cheese. We go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for our needs – including food. When it rains we try to grow some vegetables wherever we can because it is rocky and there hardly any good land. That’s how we survive.”
The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple, “Go back, get the cow, take her to that cliff in front of us, and push her off it.”
The disciple could not believe his ears. “I cannot do that, master! How can we be so ungrateful, cruel and heartless? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they won’t be able to survive. Without the cow, they’ll all die!”
The wise man took a deep breath and repeated the order- a little firmly this time. Though outraged, the student obeyed his teacher. He returned to the hut, untied the cow and quietly led it to the edge of the cliff from where he pushed it. The animal fell down and died.
As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One day, the guilt became too much to bear so he left the wise man to see the family of that little hut. He wanted to find out what had happened to them; to help them out, apologize or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he saw that in place of the poor miserable hut stood a beautiful house with trees all around, a well manicured lawn, a swimming pool and several cars in the garage- in short a prosperous looking place. The family was celebrating their first million dollars.
The heart of the disciple froze and wondered what could have happened to that poor family. Without a doubt, they must have been forced to sell their land and leave. Perhaps at this very moment they must all be begging on the streets of some city. He approached the house and asked them the whereabouts of the family that had lived in poverty there several years ago.
“You’re looking at that family,” said the man. At that instant the disciple recognized the owner of the poor hut, only now he was much healthier, happier and confident. The woman too looked happy and the children were now healthy good looking teenagers.
He was dumbfounded, and asked, “What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short period?”
The man looked at the disciple and replied with a smile, “Yes I remember you and the wise man. After you left, our cow strayed and fell off the cliff. When I went down, I found it dead. Initially I cursed my bad luck. But we had no time to cry. In order to survive, we had to start doing other things. We discovered skills we didn’t even know we possessed. Because we were forced to come up with new ideas, new ways of doing things, we prospered and are now much better off than before.”
At times our biggest obstacle is over dependence on something fragile. The crutches that should be helping us to move ahead become chains that hinder our growth. So, perhaps, God wants to “push your cow off the cliff” and make you aware of your strengths. Trust Him and turn to Him for guidance.
The best way to assess yourself is by focusing on qualities that lie within your control and not dependent on external factors. You can’t control what happens at your job place or on the marital front or how your friends behave or how your family treats you but you can most certainly be in control of your own thoughts, behaviour, attitude, outlook, approach, feelings, mind-set and so on. Recognize the difference between these two and once you are aware of yourself nothing can shake your self esteem or disturb your peace.
Never treat failure as final and don’t think that it’s the end of the road. Take lessons from it and learn. Failure is also a step towards success- provided you take it in the right spirit. Instead of brooding over what’s happened and losing sleep as well as peace of mind, learn to rise and come out even better.
You will have setbacks; that’s a part of life. It could be death of a close one, a mishap, a rejection, a breakup and so on; these are mere distraction or interruptions nothing more. Take them as just a small deviation from your chosen path; and don’t give up or give in.
This world is replete with examples of people who have risen from repeated failures or started very late in life. The one thing that is common in all such cases is, they had the desire to succeed and just refused to give up or give in. So have the will to rise and the courage to face all situations. ~Latika Teotia
Most of us long for one soulful relationship which can help us to carry on with life and are disappointed when we fall short of such expectations. We get hurt when we face rejections or betrayal. On this Valentine’s Day, stop the hunt for that perfect connection with someone else and build a relationship with your own self. Make it complete and fill it with love by ignoring your short comings and your imperfections. Forgive your wrongs and give yourself all the love you expected from others. Make a promise that henceforth you won’t be hard on yourself. Never be self critical and never ever have poor self esteem about your own self. ~Latika Teotia
There are days in our lives when nothing seems to be going right and we get so dejected that we just want to give up. No amount of coaxing, cajoling or self motivation seems to work. Nothing seems to inspire us. It seems that the very air has gone out of our balloon and we sit there deflated, depressed and crestfallen. Don’t fret; such things do happen.
Such moments should be taken in our stride; utilize this time to recount your achievements and also to plan ahead. Before you know, such moments or days will pass and the sun will shine brightly once again. ~Latika Teotia
Problems are temporary; they don’t last forever. Sooner or later they get solved and things fall into place. Have patience, have faith. Remember you are bigger than any and every problem or challenge that life throws at you. ~Latika Teotia
The dreamers, the doers and the successful ones always catch the limelight; I want to include those that tried too in this category. ~Latika Teotia