Avoid placing an unfair burden on your partner !!!

Love is a two way traffic; if you are trying to squeeze happiness out of someone or vice versa then it’ll be a selfish relationship. You have to be unconditionally giving and have to think about the needs of others as well. Yes you can tell the others what makes you happy but you have no business to force them to keep you contented. ~Latika Teotia

We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space !!!

We have the choice to act, ignore or avoid while dealing with people. In our anxiety to be correct in our behaviour towards all, we bend backwards giving up our space to people who don’t deserve it. These include friends, relatives or even our own family. There may be an overbearing friend or a difficult child or even an uncompromising spouse who gives us stress by entering our space and attacking us relentlessly. The fault lies fairly and squarely on our shoulders for having allowed them to come this far. We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space and tell them that they can come this far and no more. We must stop putting up with nonsense that stresses us out. We must be firm, stop putting up with behaviour that doesn’t suit us and before long we’ll find that such persons will change their behaviour patterns. ~Latika Teotia

Do not lose faith when life gets tough !!!

When crisis emerge , most of us become so hard  on ourselves that we start hurting those who love and care for us the most. We get tempted to give up on our purpose. We begin to compromise on our values . We get into wrong company or relationships or else build walls around us…

It is okay for the time being to get discouraged, disillusioned or disheartened but the first thing which needs fixing is “OUR ATTITUDE” .

I know it is very difficult to remain positive and calm in such times ‘But’ we have to consciously try our best to stay strong by building faith in God. We might not be able to change our circumstances but we can for sure cooperate with God and have patience. Maybe God is rearranging our lives and it is taking us where we need to be. Let the light of our faith in the Lord be our guiding light .

Last but not the least, we should  not lose love for  our loved ones  and most of all love for ourselves. Be believing !!! ~Latika Teotia

Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations !!!

As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia

Know yourself !!!

The best way to assess yourself is by focusing on qualities that lie within your control and not dependent on external factors. You can’t control what happens at your job place or on the marital front or how your friends behave or how your family treats you but you can most certainly be in control of your own thoughts, behaviour, attitude, outlook, approach, feelings, mind-set and so on. Recognize the difference between these two and once you are aware of yourself nothing can shake your self esteem or disturb your peace.
~Latika Teotia

Make some boundaries !!!

Make some boundaries for yourself, set limits for everyone, draw a line that no one, just NO ONE, should cross and refuse to be used. You are not a doormat to be trampled underneath. You are gentle and kind but that’s your strength; let no one mistake it for your weakness. Learn to stand up and don’t take any nonsense from anyone. ~Latika Teotia