When crisis emerge , most of us become so hard on ourselves that we start hurting those who love and care for us the most. We get tempted to give up on our purpose. We begin to compromise on our values . We get into wrong company or relationships or else build walls around us…
It is okay for the time being to get discouraged, disillusioned or disheartened but the first thing which needs fixing is “OUR ATTITUDE” .
I know it is very difficult to remain positive and calm in such times ‘But’ we have to consciously try our best to stay strong by building faith in God. We might not be able to change our circumstances but we can for sure cooperate with God and have patience. Maybe God is rearranging our lives and it is taking us where we need to be. Let the light of our faith in the Lord be our guiding light .
Last but not the least, we should not lose love for our loved ones and most of all love for ourselves. Be believing !!! ~Latika Teotia
As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia
The best way to assess yourself is by focusing on qualities that lie within your control and not dependent on external factors. You can’t control what happens at your job place or on the marital front or how your friends behave or how your family treats you but you can most certainly be in control of your own thoughts, behaviour, attitude, outlook, approach, feelings, mind-set and so on. Recognize the difference between these two and once you are aware of yourself nothing can shake your self esteem or disturb your peace.
Make some boundaries for yourself, set limits for everyone, draw a line that no one, just NO ONE, should cross and refuse to be used. You are not a doormat to be trampled underneath. You are gentle and kind but that’s your strength; let no one mistake it for your weakness. Learn to stand up and don’t take any nonsense from anyone. ~Latika Teotia
Stop being used and ill-treated by allowing people to have their way. Stand up for yourself and what is right. The more you give in to other people’s whims and fancies the more they will misuse you. Let them know that your gentleness should not be mistaken for weakness and that you are strong enough to protect your rights. Make boundaries and don’t allow others to cross that line- your space belongs to you, no one has the right to violate it. You will not only be able to redeem yourself but will also be able to recognize true friends; those that leave weren’t yours in the first place. Don’t make or retain relationships at the cost of your self esteem and peace. ~Latika Teotia
Have power over of your life. Once you learn that you have the freedom to take your own decisions without looking over shoulder for approval or appreciation then you’ll realize that you are also responsible for them (your decisions). Then, you’ll have the freedom to turn your dreams into reality- no matter how small or big they are, whether they are too ambitious or ridiculous, too difficult or too easy- no one will laugh at them because you’ve taken that power away from everyone. So go ahead, be in charge of your life and live it the way you want to. Live a happy, soulful life full of bliss. ~Latika Teotia
While loving and caring for someone, don’t lose your own identity. The strongest relationship should be with your own self. Losing your precious relationship does hurt a lot, but that should not make you lose yourself. Self love and self esteem should not be lost at the altar of loving others. If you feel that while making a relationship work, you are losing yourself and hurting your soul then a good decision would be to walk out. That doesn’t make you an escapist but defines you as a wise, self loving and self respecting person. ~Latika Teotia
I must learn to love myself; give my own self priority instead of playing up to others and becoming what others want me to be. God made me who I am and, I’m sure, He had a purpose in creating me in this mould. Yes I choose my own self, the real, the invaluable, the unique ME. ~Latika Teotia