As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia
The best way to assess yourself is by focusing on qualities that lie within your control and not dependent on external factors. You can’t control what happens at your job place or on the marital front or how your friends behave or how your family treats you but you can most certainly be in control of your own thoughts, behaviour, attitude, outlook, approach, feelings, mind-set and so on. Recognize the difference between these two and once you are aware of yourself nothing can shake your self esteem or disturb your peace.
Make some boundaries for yourself, set limits for everyone, draw a line that no one, just NO ONE, should cross and refuse to be used. You are not a doormat to be trampled underneath. You are gentle and kind but that’s your strength; let no one mistake it for your weakness. Learn to stand up and don’t take any nonsense from anyone. ~Latika Teotia
Stop being used and ill-treated by allowing people to have their way. Stand up for yourself and what is right. The more you give in to other people’s whims and fancies the more they will misuse you. Let them know that your gentleness should not be mistaken for weakness and that you are strong enough to protect your rights. Make boundaries and don’t allow others to cross that line- your space belongs to you, no one has the right to violate it. You will not only be able to redeem yourself but will also be able to recognize true friends; those that leave weren’t yours in the first place. Don’t make or retain relationships at the cost of your self esteem and peace. ~Latika Teotia
Have power over of your life. Once you learn that you have the freedom to take your own decisions without looking over shoulder for approval or appreciation then you’ll realize that you are also responsible for them (your decisions). Then, you’ll have the freedom to turn your dreams into reality- no matter how small or big they are, whether they are too ambitious or ridiculous, too difficult or too easy- no one will laugh at them because you’ve taken that power away from everyone. So go ahead, be in charge of your life and live it the way you want to. Live a happy, soulful life full of bliss. ~Latika Teotia
While loving and caring for someone, don’t lose your own identity. The strongest relationship should be with your own self. Losing your precious relationship does hurt a lot, but that should not make you lose yourself. Self love and self esteem should not be lost at the altar of loving others. If you feel that while making a relationship work, you are losing yourself and hurting your soul then a good decision would be to walk out. That doesn’t make you an escapist but defines you as a wise, self loving and self respecting person. ~Latika Teotia
I must learn to love myself; give my own self priority instead of playing up to others and becoming what others want me to be. God made me who I am and, I’m sure, He had a purpose in creating me in this mould. Yes I choose my own self, the real, the invaluable, the unique ME. ~Latika Teotia
The day you start giving yourself priority and catering to your own needs first, that day everything will fall in place. Most of us were taught (or believed) that taking care of your own needs first is being selfish. Nothing can be farther from the truth. Unless you look after yourself first, how can you look after others? ??
It has been proved beyond reasonable doubt that if you want to help others, you have to take care of your own needs first. No, you are not being selfish by doing that. Charity begins at home- in this case with your own self. You can feed others provided you have enough to eat.
More often than not, you are misused if you are nice. You have to compromise many a time to suit needs of others. That way you are seconding yourself to someone else. Stop doing that. You have a right to your needs and a reasonable chance to fulfill them.
Demarcate clear boundaries, draw very clear unambiguous lines and stick to them; your personal space should not be violated. If in your relationships you find that all your efforts are concentrated on pleasing others then it is high time you unshackled and freed yourself from their vice like grip or else you will sink into quicksand with no chance of survival.
If people don’t like the new you and decide to walk out, don’t stop them, they were never meant to be in your circle. Good riddance. Believe me, you will feel relieved because a very heavy load would have been lifted from your chest.
Surround yourself with like-minded people who care for you, respect your individuality, see your value and don’t cross the line. They are people you should stick to- because they are genuine. ~Latika Teotia
She was oppressed, trampled over, hurt, harmed and went through pain as well as sorrow till she decided to stand up to what was going on. She said a firm and emphatic NO to all the nonsense. She was determined to face her fears, heal the pain of countless wounds and come out of the shadows to claim her rightful place under the sun. Yes, she is a fighter and had that fire which refused to die down despite the torture and misery that she underwent. She now stands rock steady, full of self assurance, firmly anchored to the confidence in her own self. Having freed herself from the deep dungeon of misery that she underwent all these years, she is now much more relaxed and at peace. Her life which was quite a mess is now uncluttered and she now travels much lighter having broken free of the chains that bound her. No longer is her energy being sucked in the wrong direction of the bygone miserable past nor is she unsure of the future because she has decided to create it to her heart’s desire. She’s fully alert with her feet firmly planted. The warrior in her has arrived !!! ~Latika Teotia