At times we feel let down in relationships !!!

At times we feel let down in relationships when we don’t get what we expect. This could be because of two reasons. One, we don’t let the other person know what we expect. We may be more than perfect in our behaviour by being sensitive towards other persons, never doing anything that might hurt them or make them feel humiliated. We go the extra distance to make others comfortable in every sense.

In return, we expect them to behave likewise. The trouble starts when they don’t. We start burning inwards, start holding grudges and with the passage of time we make things worse for ourselves. All this while, the other person/s are not even aware of what we perceive to be unjust behaviour. The sensible thing to do is make the others aware of what we expect from them; sensitize them towards our feelings so that they behave with us the way we want them to. Second, there are people who are rude and crude by nature. Either drop them or be firm about what we expect from them. Make it crystal clear to them that either they mend their ways or they are out.

Remember, only you can love yourself and ensure that others respect you. ~Latika Teotia

Don’t be harsh on yourself !!!

You don’t have to be too harsh on yourself when things go wrong and punish yourself for every mistake- in fact I feel that you don’t need to chastise yourself at all. When we condemn or castigate ourselves for any folly, we are letting loose an air of negativity- punishments have this uncanny trait of lowering the morale and bringing gloom all around. So, it’s okay to commit mistakes- we all do- learn from them and move ahead. ~Latika Teotia

Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations !!!

As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia

Live the life which pleases you !!!

You appear to have been so caught up in trying to please others that you’ve forgotten your own self. By leading this kind of an existence, you’ve surrendered the real you to other people’s impulses and extinguished a better part of your personality. Wake up! Recognize the real you and get ready to live the life which pleases you. ~Latika Teotia

You are a work in progress !!!

You don’t have to be too harsh on yourself when things go wrong and punish yourself for every mistake- in fact I feel that you don’t need to chastise yourself at all. When we condemn or castigate ourselves for any folly, we are letting loose an air of negativity- punishments have this uncanny trait of lowering the morale and bringing gloom all around. So, it’s okay to commit mistakes- we all do- learn from them and move ahead. ~Latika Teotia

Happy Valentine’s Day !!!

Most of us long for one soulful relationship which can help us to carry on with life and are disappointed when we fall short of such expectations. We get hurt when we face rejections or betrayal. On this Valentine’s Day, stop the hunt for that perfect connection with someone else and build a relationship with your own self. Make it complete and fill it with love by ignoring your short comings and your imperfections. Forgive your wrongs and give yourself all the love you expected from others. Make a promise that henceforth you won’t be hard on yourself. Never be self critical and never ever have poor self esteem about your own self. ~Latika Teotia

Have power over of your life !!!

Have power over of your life. Once you learn that you have the freedom to take your own decisions without looking over shoulder for approval or appreciation then you’ll realize that you are also responsible for them (your decisions). Then, you’ll have the freedom to turn your dreams into reality- no matter how small or big they are, whether they are too ambitious or ridiculous, too difficult or too easy- no one will laugh at them because you’ve taken that power away from everyone. So go ahead, be in charge of your life and live it the way you want to. Live a happy, soulful life full of bliss. ~Latika Teotia

Make your soul happy !!!

By all means help out others, sacrifice if you have to but it should not at the cost of your own peace, ease and well being. More often than not we self sacrifice and do things to please others. At the back of our minds we always have this feeling that if we don’t do this or that, others might leave us- we are always looking for other people’s approval. Don’t be a hypocrite; be your natural as well as original self; do what gives you satisfaction and carry out those tasks which make you happy, because in the end what matters is your own peace of mind as well as self satisfaction. ~Latika Teotia

The strongest relationship should be with your own self !!!

While loving and caring for someone, don’t lose your own identity. The strongest relationship should be with your own self. Losing your precious relationship does hurt a lot, but that should not make you lose yourself. Self love and self esteem should not be lost at the altar of loving others. If you feel that while  making a relationship work, you are losing yourself and hurting your soul then a good decision would be to walk out. That doesn’t make you an escapist but defines you as a wise, self loving and self respecting person. ~Latika Teotia