We have the choice to act, ignore or avoid while dealing with people. In our anxiety to be correct in our behaviour towards all, we bend backwards giving up our space to people who don’t deserve it. These include friends, relatives or even our own family. There may be an overbearing friend or a difficult child or even an uncompromising spouse who gives us stress by entering our space and attacking us relentlessly. The fault lies fairly and squarely on our shoulders for having allowed them to come this far. We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space and tell them that they can come this far and no more. We must stop putting up with nonsense that stresses us out. We must be firm, stop putting up with behaviour that doesn’t suit us and before long we’ll find that such persons will change their behaviour patterns. ~Latika Teotia
Believers believe in their own selves first- that’s the foundation for believing in others. For achieving anything, you have to have self confidence and faith in your own self. ~Latika Teotia
When crisis emerge , most of us become so hard on ourselves that we start hurting those who love and care for us the most. We get tempted to give up on our purpose. We begin to compromise on our values . We get into wrong company or relationships or else build walls around us…
It is okay for the time being to get discouraged, disillusioned or disheartened but the first thing which needs fixing is “OUR ATTITUDE” .
I know it is very difficult to remain positive and calm in such times ‘But’ we have to consciously try our best to stay strong by building faith in God. We might not be able to change our circumstances but we can for sure cooperate with God and have patience. Maybe God is rearranging our lives and it is taking us where we need to be. Let the light of our faith in the Lord be our guiding light .
Last but not the least, we should not lose love for our loved ones and most of all love for ourselves. Be believing !!! ~Latika Teotia
At times we feel let down in relationships when we don’t get what we expect. This could be because of two reasons. One, we don’t let the other person know what we expect. We may be more than perfect in our behaviour by being sensitive towards other persons, never doing anything that might hurt them or make them feel humiliated. We go the extra distance to make others comfortable in every sense.
In return, we expect them to behave likewise. The trouble starts when they don’t. We start burning inwards, start holding grudges and with the passage of time we make things worse for ourselves. All this while, the other person/s are not even aware of what we perceive to be unjust behaviour. The sensible thing to do is make the others aware of what we expect from them; sensitize them towards our feelings so that they behave with us the way we want them to. Second, there are people who are rude and crude by nature. Either drop them or be firm about what we expect from them. Make it crystal clear to them that either they mend their ways or they are out.
Remember, only you can love yourself and ensure that others respect you. ~Latika Teotia
As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t tie yourself to moments or days in the near or not so near future- don’t make promises to yourself that you will start a new phase of your life on 1st January by drawing up a long list of New Year’s resolutions or wait for Valentine’s Day to express your love or feel upset if your partner forgets it or your anniversary or birthday or any other date. Every day is a good day and life is not defined by dates but by events or happenings. Relationships and events are more important than dates and rituals. ~Latika Teotia
People who care for you, love you unconditionally and always have your good at heart will never ever harm you- knowingly or unknowingly. Trust them fully; don’t further analyze what they say or start reading between the lines.
We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
Be kind to others; show that you care. But by being kind I don’t mean that you get used, that you get trampled all over and in the end there’s not very much left of your original self. Set limits and be firm about them. You can be pleasant, kind, caring and all that yet have your own space. Never look down on someone, give them the respect they deserve. How you treat others, especially those who are less fortunate or can’t repay, defines you and shows your true character. ~Latika Teotia