At times we feel let down in relationships when we don’t get what we expect. This could be because of two reasons. One, we don’t let the other person know what we expect. We may be more than perfect in our behaviour by being sensitive towards other persons, never doing anything that might hurt them or make them feel humiliated. We go the extra distance to make others comfortable in every sense.
In return, we expect them to behave likewise. The trouble starts when they don’t. We start burning inwards, start holding grudges and with the passage of time we make things worse for ourselves. All this while, the other person/s are not even aware of what we perceive to be unjust behaviour. The sensible thing to do is make the others aware of what we expect from them; sensitize them towards our feelings so that they behave with us the way we want them to. Second, there are people who are rude and crude by nature. Either drop them or be firm about what we expect from them. Make it crystal clear to them that either they mend their ways or they are out.
Remember, only you can love yourself and ensure that others respect you. ~Latika Teotia
As long as we expect something from others we won’t be able to find peace and happiness. This is especially true of relationships. If you expect that the other person will complete you and help you attain the next level of evolution, then, think again. Rework your expectations, hopes and aspirations. Expect 100% from your own self and nothing from others- what you get from them is a bonus and should be treated as such. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t tie yourself to moments or days in the near or not so near future- don’t make promises to yourself that you will start a new phase of your life on 1st January by drawing up a long list of New Year’s resolutions or wait for Valentine’s Day to express your love or feel upset if your partner forgets it or your anniversary or birthday or any other date. Every day is a good day and life is not defined by dates but by events or happenings. Relationships and events are more important than dates and rituals. ~Latika Teotia
People who care for you, love you unconditionally and always have your good at heart will never ever harm you- knowingly or unknowingly. Trust them fully; don’t further analyze what they say or start reading between the lines.
We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
Be kind to others; show that you care. But by being kind I don’t mean that you get used, that you get trampled all over and in the end there’s not very much left of your original self. Set limits and be firm about them. You can be pleasant, kind, caring and all that yet have your own space. Never look down on someone, give them the respect they deserve. How you treat others, especially those who are less fortunate or can’t repay, defines you and shows your true character. ~Latika Teotia
Living according to mood swings can mess up our lives and can have a huge impact on our relationships as well. We need to have control over such behavioral swings. Meditate on the thoughts which trigger you and make conscious effort to deal and heal. ~Latika Teotia
Believe me nothing remains the same. Change is inevitable and is the law of nature. People grow together and fall apart only to come close to others. That’s life; accept it. ~Latika Teotia
When people react or feel touchy over very small non issues, don’t take things to heart- be grounded and draw strength from your inner self. Be patient with them and learn to focus on the good in them. Ignore their shortcomings and stop seeing them through the magnifying glass of what you perceive to be right. After all they are human beings and you are not aware of their problems or what they have been through. Take time to understand people instead of forming opinions. Empathize with them, remember empathy wins hearts. ~Latika Teotia
Many issues can be resolved when you take out time to listen to others with an open heart. ~Latika Teotia