Have the courage to change !!!

At times we get caught in the web of negativity. We see dark clouds everywhere, nothing seems to go right, whatever we touch appears to wilt and we feel that nothing will ever go right again. Happy times appear to be behind us and all this starts reflecting in every area of our life.

It is precisely at times like these that we must learn to let go and move on. It could be your job where nothing seems to be working well for you- maybe you have a bad boss or unhelpful peers or uncooperative subordinates. It could be your relationship where no amount of stoking ignites the fire of yesteryears. It could even be your neighborhood and a bunch of too inquisitive or plain indifferent neighbours. Or it could be anything of this sort. In these so called gloomy periods of your life, learn to take a step back, look at your situation with detachment and before long the solution will stare at you in your face.

The earlier you decide that nothing is worth spoiling your peace of mind the better it’ll be for you. Change that uncomfortable job- if you can; say goodbye to that relationship; move out of that neighborhood or ignore them and likewise decide to get rid of anything that’s taking away your peace of mind.

The moment you decide to move on a huge weight lifts, you are filled with new found energy and you feel motivated to take on life once again. Things start falling into place once again and you begin to feel that life will be even better than before. All you have to do is to have the courage to change direction and fly. ~Latika Teotia

Karma will teach them a befitting lesson !!!

If people hurt you don’t ask them the reason; instead let them keep guessing why you never bothered to find out. If someone breaks relationship with you don’t cry, fret or fume; instead let them speculate why you didn’t. If people cheat you, don’t point out; instead let them wonder why you didn’t. Let your silence speak louder than your words. Remember Karma will teach them a befitting lesson in due course of time. ~Latika Teotia

Trying to change another person is a hopeless task !!!

I have come to realize that relationships which last a lifetime are of those where we accept each other as we are; where we give each other space and freedom for growing as well as evolving. Turn your energy into living your own life and minding your own business. ~Latika Teotia

Make boundaries !!!

Stop being used and ill-treated by allowing people to have their way. Stand up for yourself and what is right. The more you give in to other people’s whims and fancies the more they will misuse you. Let them know that your gentleness should not be mistaken for weakness and that you are strong enough to protect your rights. Make boundaries and don’t allow others to cross that line- your space belongs to you, no one has the right to violate it. You will not only be able to redeem yourself but will also be able to recognize true friends; those that leave weren’t yours in the first place. Don’t make or retain relationships at the cost of your self esteem and peace. ~Latika Teotia

Give your time and energy to those who love you !!!

Don’t get tied down to something or someone when you know that it’s over; learn to let go and move on. There’s no point in wasting energy on someone who has decided to find happiness elsewhere. A crack has developed in the mirror of relationship and no matter what glue you use it’s not going to be the same again. Remember that you are strong, brave and beautiful so be bold enough to walk away. For every person who doesn’t value you there are scores of others who appreciate and admire you; they would be honoured to be a part of your life.  ~Latika Teotia

Nothing is more important than your own happiness and peace !!!

You live only once so make the most of it. Don’t slog so hard that work becomes your life; instead enjoy your work and set limits or boundaries, don’t cross them. Similarly love, but do that to make yourself happy, love for a life of fulfillment, love if it makes you ‘complete’ love because you ‘want’ to and not because you ‘have’ to; it’ll be a big mistake if you love out of compulsion or to please someone or because someone wants you to. Dream and fulfill them; set achievable goals.

Don’t live in utopia, be grounded to reality; strike a balance between what you want and what you can achieve- whether it’s work or relationship or anything else. This will lead to a sense of satisfaction and avoid frustration. Don’t cling on to something which has ceased to be yours- whether it’s a failed relationship or work or anything else- learn to let go; if it’s giving you tensions or is a drag on your happiness, it’s best to get rid of it at the earliest. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. It may be difficult initially but with the passage of time you’ll find that it was the best option. ~Latika Teotia

Forgive, forget and move on !!!

It is not a sign of weakness to forgive, forget and move on. On the contrary it shows our strength and our character. It is not worth the time, effort and energy to hold on when things go beyond a certain point, and it’s a waste of time to brood . I know ,the decision to forgive, forget and permanently break ties is a tough one and is easier said than done, but it’s the best one . Therefore, be brave and take the plunge- you have only your problems and tensions to lose. The future will be bright; at least it will be better, brighter and happier than the one you are presently in. ~Latika Teotia

Taking risks will become a second nature !!!

Taking risk is a part of the lives of successful people. Nothing can be gained by being afraid of stepping out of your comfort zone. You can work to your fullest under pressure with adrenaline pumping in your veins. Even animals perform better under stress; the tiger chases the deer because it knows it’ll have to go hungry otherwise and the deer flees for its life.

It is out of fear of the unknown or underestimating your inner strength that you are not able to realize your true worth. Be bold, take a step forward. Go about your fears logically, make a list of what you are afraid of, think of what is the worst that can happen, what are the options available, what are the risks involved, what can possibly go wrong and then you’ll have a clear picture. Thereafter, chalk a path and stick to it. Adopt a positive attitude towards your goal or objective or job or relationship or whatever you are pursuing and you’ll find that the positive vibes enrich the environment. Once you’ve come out of such a situation you’ll have the confidence to face anything. Taking risks will become a second nature. ~Latika Teotia

Happy Valentine’s Day !!!

Most of us long for one soulful relationship which can help us to carry on with life and are disappointed when we fall short of such expectations. We get hurt when we face rejections or betrayal. On this Valentine’s Day, stop the hunt for that perfect connection with someone else and build a relationship with your own self. Make it complete and fill it with love by ignoring your short comings and your imperfections. Forgive your wrongs and give yourself all the love you expected from others. Make a promise that henceforth you won’t be hard on yourself. Never be self critical and never ever have poor self esteem about your own self. ~Latika Teotia

Love more !!! Forgive more !!!

When we love someone, their biggest mistakes appear very small and we just ignore them. Treat everyone that way- especially your immediate family as well as your close circle.

Since you love them, put the petty things out of the way. Ignore smaller issues and don’t be ready to sermonize at the drop of a hat; no one likes to be ticked off. In your own house too, it’s better to ignore small irritants like someone leaving clothes crumpled in the cupboard or not putting the sofa cushions back in place or leaving used cups on the table or not cleaning the washroom properly after themselves or not leaving the remote control in the proper place and so on. It’s better to set it right yourself rather than spoil their mood or their day by pointing out or by making them set it right.

Remember, no one is deliberately triggering you; they just don’t realize their mistakes and with the passage of time they will surely come around to what you want- give them time. Even you may be having many faults which are so obvious to others but they are not pointing it out because they love you and would rather lose out on ego than on relationship.

Love people as they are , ignore small issues and I guarantee that you’ll stay happy- as also make others happy . ~Latika Teotia