We have the choice to act, ignore or avoid while dealing with people. In our anxiety to be correct in our behaviour towards all, we bend backwards giving up our space to people who don’t deserve it. These include friends, relatives or even our own family. There may be an overbearing friend or a difficult child or even an uncompromising spouse who gives us stress by entering our space and attacking us relentlessly. The fault lies fairly and squarely on our shoulders for having allowed them to come this far. We must draw up boundaries, demarcate our space and tell them that they can come this far and no more. We must stop putting up with nonsense that stresses us out. We must be firm, stop putting up with behaviour that doesn’t suit us and before long we’ll find that such persons will change their behaviour patterns. ~Latika Teotia
We all are busy in our lives handling our homes, work, various issues, ailments and so on… sometimes we don’t have a second to spare even for our own selves, so caught up with life we are…
But, despite our problems, despite the pressure of anything, despite all kinds of challenges we face in our daily lives, if we can still just pause and stop to look at someone else’s problems, if we can just smile at the other person, believe me, we would have not only made someone’s day but will also feel that our own burden has become lesser and our problems may not appear to be that big after all! That’s the beauty of caring for others.
Have you noticed how much at peace those people are who walk up to a perfect stranger and lend a helping hand, without being asked to and without expecting anything in return? That is what unconditional caring for others and helping others do to you. That is what service, good deeds and kindness do; they help the receiver as well as the giver. ~Latika Teotia
Happy persons SEE joy in everything; they don’t go SEARCHING for it. They see God’s miracles and learn to enjoy them. The flight of a bird, rainbow in the sky, fluttering of butterflies, children playing with gay abandon, an old couple in the park enjoying their togetherness, sunrise, clouds in the sky, a clear sunny day or the rhythm of the falling rain, and so many countless things fill them with joy.
Happy persons aren’t necessarily the rich or the famous ones. They are content with what they have and are delighted by even the smallest thing. Learn to enjoy what you have instead of hankering for more. Don’t be overly concerned about the past and don’t be anxious about the future either otherwise you’ll not be able to enjoy the present. ~Latika Teotia
O God, I pray that the people who are passing through difficult times should find solace while remembering and praying to you. Make their faith in you even stronger than before- they need you even more than before.
Choose, change, live and shape the life you wish to live. All that matters is your peace, happiness and a sense of fulfillment. . Don’t be bothered about what others will think or feel as they too have their own life. ~Latika Teotia
Do what makes you happy. If you find that whatever you are doing is pleasant, makes you feel good and brings happiness to you, then believe me, it’s the right thing to do. That is the easiest, most comfortable and the best way to make your dreams come true. ~Latika Teotia
You live only once so make the most of it. Don’t slog so hard that work becomes your life; instead enjoy your work and set limits or boundaries, don’t cross them. Similarly love, but do that to make yourself happy, love for a life of fulfillment, love if it makes you ‘complete’ love because you ‘want’ to and not because you ‘have’ to; it’ll be a big mistake if you love out of compulsion or to please someone or because someone wants you to. Dream and fulfill them; set achievable goals.
Don’t live in utopia, be grounded to reality; strike a balance between what you want and what you can achieve- whether it’s work or relationship or anything else. This will lead to a sense of satisfaction and avoid frustration. Don’t cling on to something which has ceased to be yours- whether it’s a failed relationship or work or anything else- learn to let go; if it’s giving you tensions or is a drag on your happiness, it’s best to get rid of it at the earliest. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. It may be difficult initially but with the passage of time you’ll find that it was the best option. ~Latika Teotia
It is not a sign of weakness to forgive, forget and move on. On the contrary it shows our strength and our character. It is not worth the time, effort and energy to hold on when things go beyond a certain point, and it’s a waste of time to brood . I know ,the decision to forgive, forget and permanently break ties is a tough one and is easier said than done, but it’s the best one . Therefore, be brave and take the plunge- you have only your problems and tensions to lose. The future will be bright; at least it will be better, brighter and happier than the one you are presently in. ~Latika Teotia
Have power over of your life. Once you learn that you have the freedom to take your own decisions without looking over shoulder for approval or appreciation then you’ll realize that you are also responsible for them (your decisions). Then, you’ll have the freedom to turn your dreams into reality- no matter how small or big they are, whether they are too ambitious or ridiculous, too difficult or too easy- no one will laugh at them because you’ve taken that power away from everyone. So go ahead, be in charge of your life and live it the way you want to. Live a happy, soulful life full of bliss. ~Latika Teotia