Sometimes love can be a lonely word which reminds you of numerous heart breaks, failed relationships and loneliness. You went through this cycle of falling in love, feeling on top of the world, the familiarity that slowly crept in which in turn gave way to differences and finally separation. Thereafter came the all too familiar flood of tears, those grief stricken moments crying on someone else’s shoulder (or crying yourself to sleep if a sympathetic friend wasn’t around), the endless hours spent in consoling yourself and so on.
Finally when the dust has settled and you are up and about, shift your focus on rebuilding your life, nurture those friendships which you had neglected, pursue your hobbies which you had put on the back burner, pay more attention to your work and spend quality time with your family. Explore the world, roam around, meet people and you never know at which corner of life you’ll come face to face with your soul connection or purpose. But never ever shut yourself off from love. All in good time you’ll finally find the love of your life.~Latika Teotia
We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
The best way to move on and move forward is to let go of the past. By past I mean everything hurtful, everything that brings or reminds us of pain, everything that was unpleasant and everything that led to disappointments. Unless you do that, the way forward will continue to be uphill. Let go and move on. ~Latika Teotia
The choice to remain unhappy because of your hurts, pains and miseries by hanging on to them or live happily by forgiving and moving on is yours. There are lots of times that you may have felt that injustice had been done to you, that you were kind to someone who in return turned out to be ungrateful, that you loved with all your heart giving it all that you had but what you got in return was a broken heart and broken dreams, in short life has been very unfair to you. Right ??? So what do you want to do ? ??Hang on to those miserable thoughts and moments? Will it help in any way ??? Are you going to get justice, will your heart be the same once again???
Get real. Hanging on to bitter memories will only harm you because you will turn bitter and you will go crazy simply trying to deal with this accumulated mound of misery. Choose instead to forgive, ignore and move on. Get rid of that excess baggage that you have been carrying in your heart all this while and you will suddenly feel lighter as if a huge stone has been lifted from your chest. Forgive quickly and unconditionally, that’s the best way forward. Don’t be tied down by bitterness and let it not ruin your life. ~Latika Teotia
If you hang to pain, hurt, embarrassment, guilt and such emotions you will find that they will dominate your life. They won’t allow you to move on unless you make a conscious effort to deal with them and free yourself. Talking to friends, family or to God can help remove the burden from your chest and make you feel better. ~Latika Teotia
None of us is perfect, yet some of us seek perfection in others and that is the root cause of broken relationships as well as misery. We should rather focus on making relationship perfect by filling it with love, understanding and mutual respect. Like it is said that soul mates are not met they are made.
Don’t be afraid of what could happen or that you may end up in pain if you took a chance on love or life. If you don’t take the plunge you may lead a safe life but it will be drab one. Life is too short to let it just pass by. Grab those short but beautiful moments which may lead to lifetime memories. As Garth Brooks famously sang, “I could have missed the pain but I’d have had to miss the dance.”~Latika Teotia
I’ve found that grief is not permanent and pain never lasts.There is always light at the end of a dark tunnel-as surely as day follows a dark night. I wrote this poem in a moment of despair. When I felt aggrieved and totally drained out. I struggled with my broken heart and found the strength to see beyond that grief. These sad moments had also taught me an invaluable lesson and brought me even more close to God.
Rain to Rainbow
I was lonely and I was in pain,
I sat quietly and watched the rain.
With each single drop, my pain did decrease,
I waited with hope for it to cease.
I picked up the broken pieces of my heart,
Even grief, though brief, had played a part.
Lo behold I spotted a rainbow at the end,
In my life, mercifully, it was only a bend.
Thank you, O Lord, for this beautiful life,
And the invaluable lessons I learnt from this strife.
In the absence of pain, grief, problems and strife,
We forget God’s wonderful gift of life.
If you fall down, don’t just stay there. Get up and get going. Life is much more than the heart break, the heart ache, the pain, the sorrow, the misery and the loneliness. It’s about picking yourself up. Never give up and say it’s “The End”. It’s okay to have a heart break, feel left out, feel depressed, feel sad and feel miserable. That’s the time to remind yourself that you are after all human and that you are not the only one who feels that way. Take a break catch your breath and move on. Surprise yourself by discovering your inner strength to get up, get going and come out smiling in the end. ~Latika Teotia