When we love someone, their biggest mistakes appear very small and we just ignore them. Treat everyone that way- especially your immediate family as well as your close circle.
Since you love them, put the petty things out of the way. Ignore smaller issues and don’t be ready to sermonize at the drop of a hat; no one likes to be ticked off. In your own house too, it’s better to ignore small irritants like someone leaving clothes crumpled in the cupboard or not putting the sofa cushions back in place or leaving used cups on the table or not cleaning the washroom properly after themselves or not leaving the remote control in the proper place and so on. It’s better to set it right yourself rather than spoil their mood or their day by pointing out or by making them set it right.
Remember, no one is deliberately triggering you; they just don’t realize their mistakes and with the passage of time they will surely come around to what you want- give them time. Even you may be having many faults which are so obvious to others but they are not pointing it out because they love you and would rather lose out on ego than on relationship.
Love people as they are , ignore small issues and I guarantee that you’ll stay happy- as also make others happy . ~Latika Teotia