We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.
If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
God sends His Angels, disguised as human beings, when we feel that we are in deep trouble or when nothing seems to go right or when we feel lonely and unloved or when our world appears to have turned topsy turrvy. They appear out of the blue, put our life back on rails and depart.
The problem with us is that we get so attached to them that we just can’t reconcile to the idea of their ever leaving us- little realizing that they have temporarily come into our lives and are supposed to leave once their mission is accomplished. We mistake them for the people who are a permanent part of our lives and don’t understand why they should ever leave us. We find it very painful and have utmost difficulty in letting them go.
The essence of life is that we are all transient, each of us has a particular role to play that God has already scripted for us and after performing our parts we too must to bid adieu. The earlier we accept this the happier and more at peace we will be. ~Latika Teotia
You live only once so make the most of it. Don’t slog so hard that work becomes your life; instead enjoy your work and set limits or boundaries, don’t cross them. Similarly love, but do that to make yourself happy, love for a life of fulfillment, love if it makes you ‘complete’ love because you ‘want’ to and not because you ‘have’ to; it’ll be a big mistake if you love out of compulsion or to please someone or because someone wants you to. Dream and fulfill them; set achievable goals.
Don’t live in utopia, be grounded to reality; strike a balance between what you want and what you can achieve- whether it’s work or relationship or anything else. This will lead to a sense of satisfaction and avoid frustration. Don’t cling on to something which has ceased to be yours- whether it’s a failed relationship or work or anything else- learn to let go; if it’s giving you tensions or is a drag on your happiness, it’s best to get rid of it at the earliest. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. It may be difficult initially but with the passage of time you’ll find that it was the best option. ~Latika Teotia
It is not a sign of weakness to forgive, forget and move on. On the contrary it shows our strength and our character. It is not worth the time, effort and energy to hold on when things go beyond a certain point, and it’s a waste of time to brood . I know ,the decision to forgive, forget and permanently break ties is a tough one and is easier said than done, but it’s the best one . Therefore, be brave and take the plunge- you have only your problems and tensions to lose. The future will be bright; at least it will be better, brighter and happier than the one you are presently in. ~Latika Teotia
Brooding over failures as well as depressing events of the past have a negative and crippling effect on our future because it prevents us from moving forward. So, make a conscious decision to not give any energy to it. Playing the victim only harms you, stop doing that, instead make a new beginning. ~Latika Teotia
Successful people do not procrastinate; they are never satisfied sitting still. They believe in being up and about. Quite often we spend endless hours planning and by the time we reach a consensus we are so drained out that there’s hardly any energy left to do anything else. The trick lies in taking the first step- getting started. Once we are in motion, everything starts working and before we realize we have finished the task in hand. So, next time you get struck, start doing- don’t sit still. ~Latika Teotia
When we get hurt or jilted or have been the victim of something, the first reaction is to seek revenge. We get so blinded by our anger that we forget that the Lord had said that vengeance was His. We forget that forgiveness brings better peace than does revenge. Why poison someone when you can do the same thing with sweetness? I will narrate a small story to illustrate my point.
A farmer had a neighbour who was a hunter and who owned ferocious but poorly trained hunting dogs. They frequently jumped the fence and chased the farmer’s lambs. The farmer asked his neighbour to keep his dogs in check, but it fell on deaf ears.
One day the dogs jumped the fence and attacked the lambs severely injuring several of them in the process. The farmer had had enough, and went to the town to complain. The wise judge listened patiently to his woes and then said, “I can punish the hunter and instruct him to keep his dogs chained or lock them up. But you would lose a friend and gain an enemy. Which would you rather have, friend or foe for a neighbour?” The farmer replied that he preferred a friend.
“Alright, I will offer you a solution that will keep your lambs safe and will also help in keeping your neighbour a friend.” He heard the judge’s solution and agreed to give it a try.
Next day he took two of his best lambs and presented them to his neighbour’s two small sons. Naturally, they were thrilled with joy and began to play with them. To protect his sons’ newly acquired playthings, the hunter built a strong kennel for his dogs. Since then, the dogs never again bothered the farmer’s lambs. Out of gratitude for the farmer’s generosity toward his sons, the hunter often shared with the farmer the game he had hunted. The farmer too reciprocated by sending the hunter cheese whenever he used to make it. This way, within a short time, the neighbours became good friends.
It is said that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. It pays to forgive, forget and move on. So keep your temper in control, overcome your desire for vengeance and free yourself from a self created prison.
Don’t waste time over regretting what happened to you and brooding over it. Be realistic- it’s over. Come to terms with it. The earlier you bounce back, the better it’ll be for you. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t run after people or plead with them beseeching them to return. If they leave you they were never meant to be a part of your complete journey. However difficult you may find it initially, don’t break down. Take it as a sign from God. Perhaps they were hampering your growth, perhaps they had made you so dependent that your entire world revolved around them. You must accept this change and move on .You need people in your life who are supposed to be there according to your destiny.
Keep your eyes open, someone better is coming along. Trust God !!!
When someone leaves you at your weakest moment you feel that the sky has fallen on you. A feeling of being dumped after being used fills you; your very being cries out from deep within.
That is the time you have to become strong- which you are. It is they who have been mean, broken your trust, shattered the faith you had in them and generally behaved like rats on a sinking ship. That’s when you should understand that you are no sinking ship but a properly grounded person, someone to whom everyone turns for help or advice and a lighthouse which has guided many ships during storms.
Let them find out that you don’t break down so easily- you are made of much sterner stuff. It is they that have lost a good friend, an able guide, a reliable companion and a very strong person. It is they who should feel lost and at sea. Good riddance. Move on and shine bright. ~Latika Teotia