Do you think that you are in love? Do you have stars in your eyes and dream of a ‘happily ever after’ phase of life? Well, that’s romance. Love is much bigger, much deeper and much more profound. I can assure you that love is tough. Love is a commitment; it’s a promise to take the good and bad times in your stride. It’s about caring and sharing. It’s about unselfishness and an attitude of ‘my family comes first, my needs, desires and comfort comes last always and every time’. It’s the ability to outlast the bad times- never to let go, come what may. That’s what love is. So when you decide to take the plunge, remove those rose tinted glasses and see the stark realities first. If you feel that you can take your partner with all the flaws, accept that things can and will go wrong and that you are strong enough to weather any kind of storm, then go ahead, take the plunge. All the very best to you. ~Latika Teotia
Sometimes love can be a lonely word which reminds you of numerous heart breaks, failed relationships and loneliness. You went through this cycle of falling in love, feeling on top of the world, the familiarity that slowly crept in which in turn gave way to differences and finally separation. Thereafter came the all too familiar flood of tears, those grief stricken moments crying on someone else’s shoulder (or crying yourself to sleep if a sympathetic friend wasn’t around), the endless hours spent in consoling yourself and so on.
Finally when the dust has settled and you are up and about, shift your focus on rebuilding your life, nurture those friendships which you had neglected, pursue your hobbies which you had put on the back burner, pay more attention to your work and spend quality time with your family. Explore the world, roam around, meet people and you never know at which corner of life you’ll come face to face with your soul connection or purpose. But never ever shut yourself off from love. All in good time you’ll finally find the love of your life.~Latika Teotia
Do what makes you happy. If you find that whatever you are doing is pleasant, makes you feel good and brings happiness to you, then believe me, it’s the right thing to do. That is the easiest, most comfortable and the best way to make your dreams come true. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t get tied down to something or someone when you know that it’s over; learn to let go and move on. There’s no point in wasting energy on someone who has decided to find happiness elsewhere. A crack has developed in the mirror of relationship and no matter what glue you use it’s not going to be the same again. Remember that you are strong, brave and beautiful so be bold enough to walk away. For every person who doesn’t value you there are scores of others who appreciate and admire you; they would be honoured to be a part of your life. ~Latika Teotia
You live only once so make the most of it. Don’t slog so hard that work becomes your life; instead enjoy your work and set limits or boundaries, don’t cross them. Similarly love, but do that to make yourself happy, love for a life of fulfillment, love if it makes you ‘complete’ love because you ‘want’ to and not because you ‘have’ to; it’ll be a big mistake if you love out of compulsion or to please someone or because someone wants you to. Dream and fulfill them; set achievable goals.
Don’t live in utopia, be grounded to reality; strike a balance between what you want and what you can achieve- whether it’s work or relationship or anything else. This will lead to a sense of satisfaction and avoid frustration. Don’t cling on to something which has ceased to be yours- whether it’s a failed relationship or work or anything else- learn to let go; if it’s giving you tensions or is a drag on your happiness, it’s best to get rid of it at the earliest. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. It may be difficult initially but with the passage of time you’ll find that it was the best option. ~Latika Teotia
Most of us long for one soulful relationship which can help us to carry on with life and are disappointed when we fall short of such expectations. We get hurt when we face rejections or betrayal. On this Valentine’s Day, stop the hunt for that perfect connection with someone else and build a relationship with your own self. Make it complete and fill it with love by ignoring your short comings and your imperfections. Forgive your wrongs and give yourself all the love you expected from others. Make a promise that henceforth you won’t be hard on yourself. Never be self critical and never ever have poor self esteem about your own self. ~Latika Teotia
When we love someone, their biggest mistakes appear very small and we just ignore them. Treat everyone that way- especially your immediate family as well as your close circle.
Since you love them, put the petty things out of the way. Ignore smaller issues and don’t be ready to sermonize at the drop of a hat; no one likes to be ticked off. In your own house too, it’s better to ignore small irritants like someone leaving clothes crumpled in the cupboard or not putting the sofa cushions back in place or leaving used cups on the table or not cleaning the washroom properly after themselves or not leaving the remote control in the proper place and so on. It’s better to set it right yourself rather than spoil their mood or their day by pointing out or by making them set it right.
Remember, no one is deliberately triggering you; they just don’t realize their mistakes and with the passage of time they will surely come around to what you want- give them time. Even you may be having many faults which are so obvious to others but they are not pointing it out because they love you and would rather lose out on ego than on relationship.
Love people as they are , ignore small issues and I guarantee that you’ll stay happy- as also make others happy . ~Latika Teotia
Become a ray of hope for someone by helping them in whatever way you can to rebuild their life. Live to be a lighthouse for others and make the journey of your life worthwhile. ~Latika Teotia
Don’t let the virus of negative thoughts come into your world and wipe out the hard disc of your life; stay positive. Make a promise to yourself that you will steer clear of anything that brings a frown on the countenance- yours or someone else’s.
There are millions of ways in which you can spread joy as well as cheer. Follow that path. Start by putting a smile on your face first- that small curve can make a big difference in your life and in the lives of others. Think of good things only and banish the ones that pull you or the others down. Talk of good things, not bad; always talk of health, happiness, cheerfulness and prosperity. Look at the glass half full, not half empty; see the good side of everything.
Vow to stay optimistic, and make every effort to live it as well as make it come true. Make optimism your way of life. Make your friends as well as family feel special, show them their strengths, wipe out their negative thoughts. Be thrilled, excited and enthusiastic about their achievements as well as successes. Be good, do good and you’ll find that this world is a good place to live in.
Trauma makes a person helpless and the reaction varies from victim to victim. While some become total introverts by creating a defensive wall around them others at least permit their close ones in and do share some of their experiences. Some become aggressive and they react to even the smallest touch. Some others don’t even like people caring for them; they prefer to slink away into darkness and are afraid of light. And of course there are the stronger ones who take a stand and face the situation head on.
In all these cases we must learn to empathise with the victims. If someone known to you has been through some traumatic experience, try to understand and give them space as well as time.
Don’t force them to share and don’t keep reminding them and making them relive the hurtful experience. Make them comfortable first and share awareness about various options like legal help, therapies, counseling and so on.
No one should be left alone with the wounds of a trauma. Fill their lives with love, kindness, gentleness, and sympathy. Let them know that they are not alone- we all care. ~Latika Teotia