Overcome Dependency !!!

We undergo all kinds of pain and misery. There are times when nothing works well and the future appears to be bleak. There appears to be no end in sight and no relief from the continuous misery. We must always trust God and pray but it is times such as these that we must turn to Him with even bigger zeal. He is our Saviour and He alone can show us a way out. Adversity teaches us to be brave and we come out that much stronger from the experience. Perhaps, God wants to make us strong and independent, therefore, He is trying to remove our crutches- our over dependence on someone or something. This reminds me of a story about a poor family and their cow.

Once upon a time in a far away land, there lived a wise teacher and his disciple. During one of their travels, they came upon an extremely poor family staying in a miserable hut in a desolate place where there were hardly any crops or greenery. A man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired looking cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. The family shared whatever little they could with them. Later, the wise man thanked the owner and asked him, “This is a very poor and desolate place, far away from anything. I can see hardly any crops or vegetables growing. How do you survive?”

The man replied, “You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going. She gives us milk, some of it we turn into cheese. We go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for our needs – including food. When it rains we try to grow some vegetables wherever we can because it is rocky and there hardly any good land. That’s how we survive.”

The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple, “Go back, get the cow, take her to that cliff in front of us, and push her off it.”

The disciple could not believe his ears. “I cannot do that, master! How can we be so ungrateful, cruel and heartless? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they won’t be able to survive. Without the cow, they’ll all die!”
The wise man took a deep breath and repeated the order- a little firmly this time. Though outraged, the student obeyed his teacher. He returned to the hut, untied the cow and quietly led it to the edge of the cliff from where he pushed it. The animal fell down and died.

As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One day, the guilt became too much to bear so he left the wise man to see the family of that little hut. He wanted to find out what had happened to them; to help them out, apologize or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he saw that in place of the poor miserable hut stood a beautiful house with trees all around, a well manicured lawn, a swimming pool and several cars in the garage- in short a prosperous looking place. The family was celebrating their first million dollars.

The heart of the disciple froze and wondered what could have happened to that poor family. Without a doubt, they must have been forced to sell their land and leave. Perhaps at this very moment they must all be begging on the streets of some city. He approached the house and asked them the whereabouts of the family that had lived in poverty there several years ago.

“You’re looking at that family,” said the man. At that instant the disciple recognized the owner of the poor hut, only now he was much healthier, happier and confident. The woman too looked happy and the children were now healthy good looking teenagers.

He was dumbfounded, and asked, “What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short period?”

The man looked at the disciple and replied with a smile, “Yes I remember you and the wise man. After you left, our cow strayed and fell off the cliff. When I went down, I found it dead. Initially I cursed my bad luck. But we had no time to cry. In order to survive, we had to start doing other things. We discovered skills we didn’t even know we possessed. Because we were forced to come up with new ideas, new ways of doing things, we prospered and are now much better off than before.”

At times our biggest obstacle is over dependence on something fragile. The crutches that should be helping us to move ahead become chains that hinder our growth. So, perhaps, God wants to “push your cow off the cliff” and make you aware of your strengths. Trust Him and turn to Him for guidance.
~Latika Teotia

 

 

 

Let go ! Let God !

Don’t burn your fingers trying to fit the broken pieces which are of no use and are way past their expiry date. . God has already written your life’s chapter let Him lead you. ~Latika Teotia

Get rid of the source of distress !!!

We can deal with the whole world and smile even if things go wrong because other people don’t mean much to us; their place in our life is, at best, temporary. But when those we love also become the cause of our pain, then it’s time to relook at our relationships and priorities.

If someone is causing us endless pain and is not ready to yield, then it’s better to carry out a surgical operation and get rid of the source of such distress. Just as it’s better to get rid of a tumor before it afflicts the rest of the body so also relationships that become a drain on our emotions, well being, happiness and peace must be severed at the earliest. We shouldn’t punish ourselves for their toxic behaviour or their mistakes. It’s time to take a look at our own interests too.
~Latika Teotia

Now it’s time for you to move on !!!

God sends His Angels, disguised as human beings, when we feel that we are in deep trouble or when nothing seems to go right or when we feel lonely and unloved or when our world appears to have turned topsy turrvy. They appear out of the blue, put our life back on rails and depart.

The problem with us is that we get so attached to them that we just can’t reconcile to the idea of their ever leaving us- little realizing that they have temporarily come into our lives and are supposed to leave once their mission is accomplished. We mistake them for the people who are a permanent part of our lives and don’t understand why they should ever leave us. We find it very painful and have utmost difficulty in letting them go.

The essence of life is that we are all transient, each of us has a particular role to play that God has already scripted for us and after performing our parts we too must to bid adieu. The earlier we accept this the happier and more at peace we will be. ~Latika Teotia

Nothing is more important than your own happiness and peace !!!

You live only once so make the most of it. Don’t slog so hard that work becomes your life; instead enjoy your work and set limits or boundaries, don’t cross them. Similarly love, but do that to make yourself happy, love for a life of fulfillment, love if it makes you ‘complete’ love because you ‘want’ to and not because you ‘have’ to; it’ll be a big mistake if you love out of compulsion or to please someone or because someone wants you to. Dream and fulfill them; set achievable goals.

Don’t live in utopia, be grounded to reality; strike a balance between what you want and what you can achieve- whether it’s work or relationship or anything else. This will lead to a sense of satisfaction and avoid frustration. Don’t cling on to something which has ceased to be yours- whether it’s a failed relationship or work or anything else- learn to let go; if it’s giving you tensions or is a drag on your happiness, it’s best to get rid of it at the earliest. Nothing is more important than your own happiness. It may be difficult initially but with the passage of time you’ll find that it was the best option. ~Latika Teotia

Brooding harms !!!

Brooding over failures as well as depressing events of the past have a negative and crippling effect on our future because it prevents us from moving forward. So, make a conscious decision to not give any energy to it. Playing the victim only harms you, stop doing that, instead make a new beginning. ~Latika Teotia

Shake it off !!! Begin again !!!

Don’t waste time over regretting what happened to you and brooding over it. Be realistic- it’s over. Come to terms with it. The earlier you bounce back, the better it’ll be for you.  ~Latika Teotia

Trust God !!!

We undergo all kinds of pain and misery. There are times when nothing works well and the future appears to be bleak. There appears to be no end in sight and no relief from the continuous misery. We must always trust God and pray but it is times such as these that we must turn to Him with even bigger zeal. He is our Saviour and He alone can show us a way out. Adversity teaches us to be brave and we come out that much stronger from the experience. Perhaps, God wants to make us strong and independent, therefore, He is trying to remove our crutches- our over dependence on someone or something. This reminds me of a story about a poor family and their cow.

Once upon a time in a far away land, there lived a wise teacher and his disciple. During one of their travels, they came upon an extremely poor family staying in a miserable hut in a desolate place where there were hardly any crops or greenery. A man lived with his wife, three young children and a thin, tired looking cow. Since they were hungry and thirsty, the wise man and his disciple stopped for a few hours and were well received. The family shared whatever little they could with them. Later, the wise man thanked the owner and asked him, “This is a very poor and desolate place, far away from anything. I can see hardly any crops or vegetables growing. How do you survive?”

The man replied, “You see that cow? That’s what keeps us going. She gives us milk, some of it we turn into cheese. We go into the city and exchange the milk and cheese for our needs – including food. When it rains we try to grow some vegetables wherever we can because it is rocky and there hardly any good land. That’s how we survive.”

The wise man thanked them for their hospitality and left. When he reached the first bend in the road, he said to his disciple, “Go back, get the cow, take her to that cliff in front of us, and push her off it.”
The disciple could not believe his ears. “I cannot do that, master! How can we be so ungrateful, cruel and heartless? The cow is all they have. If I throw it off the cliff, they won’t be able to survive. Without the cow, they’ll all die!”
The wise man took a deep breath and repeated the order- a little firmly this time. Though outraged, the student obeyed his teacher. He returned to the hut, untied the cow and quietly led it to the edge of the cliff from where he pushed it. The animal fell down and died.
As the years passed by, remorse for what he had done never left the disciple. One day, the guilt became too much to bear so he left the wise man to see the family of that little hut. He wanted to find out what had happened to them; to help them out, apologize or somehow make amends. Upon rounding a turn in the road, he saw that in place of the poor miserable hut stood a beautiful house with trees all around, a well manicured lawn, a swimming pool and several cars in the garage- in short a prosperous looking place. The family was celebrating their first million dollars.
The heart of the disciple froze and wondered what could have happened to that poor family. Without a doubt, they must have been forced to sell their land and leave. Perhaps at this very moment they must all be begging on the streets of some city. He approached the house and asked them the whereabouts of the family that had lived in poverty there several years ago.

“You’re looking at that family,” said the man. At that instant the disciple recognized the owner of the poor hut, only now he was much healthier, happier and confident. The woman too looked happy and the children were now healthy good looking teenagers.
He was dumbfounded, and asked, “What happened? I was here with my teacher a few years ago and this was a miserable place. There was nothing. What did you do to improve your lives in such a short period?”
The man looked at the disciple and replied with a smile, “Yes I remember you and the wise man. After you left, our cow strayed and fell off the cliff. When I went down, I found it dead. Initially I cursed my bad luck. But we had no time to cry. In order to survive, we had to start doing other things. We discovered skills we didn’t even know we possessed. Because we were forced to come up with new ideas, new ways of doing things, we prospered and are now much better off than before.”
At times our biggest obstacle is over dependence on something fragile. The crutches that should be helping us to move ahead become chains that hinder our growth. So, perhaps, God wants to “push your cow off the cliff” and make you aware of your strengths. Trust Him and turn to Him for guidance.
~Latika Teotia

Take a chance on change !!!

In order to remain relevant we have to keep up with the times; this may mean changing ourselves, adapting to the situation, carrying out mid course corrections and so on. At times these may forced on us and at other times these may come about by accident. Therefore, in a way, we are constantly evolving; our effort should be to evolve into a better person- better than the previous one before we decided to change. We must get rid of the extra baggage that we have been lugging around; in fact we must constantly take stock and free ourselves off what doesn’t help us evolve. Take a leap; don’t be afraid. Remember, we have nothing to lose but our own inhibitions, fears and limitations. ~Latika Teotia

Trust God and make way for a New Beginning !!!

Don’t run after people or plead with them beseeching them to return. If they leave you they were never meant to be a part of your complete journey. However difficult you may find it initially, don’t break down. Take it as a sign from God. Perhaps they were hampering your growth, perhaps they had made you so dependent that your entire world revolved around them. You must accept this change and move on .You need people in your life who are supposed to be there according to your destiny.

Keep your eyes open, someone better is coming along. Trust God !!!
~Latika Teotia