Don’t be harsh on yourself !!!

You don’t have to be too harsh on yourself when things go wrong and punish yourself for every mistake- in fact I feel that you don’t need to chastise yourself at all. When we condemn or castigate ourselves for any folly, we are letting loose an air of negativity- punishments have this uncanny trait of lowering the morale and bringing gloom all around. So, it’s okay to commit mistakes- we all do- learn from them and move ahead. ~Latika Teotia

It is always advisable to be a good listener !!!

Sometimes in our exuberance we overstep ourselves. Someone may be passing through a difficult time and no sooner do they start talking about their problems than we interrupt them with quick fix solutions. We couldn’t be more wrong in our approach. Perhaps all that the other person wants is to unwind and just talk. Nothing more. People want to be assured that you’ll be there when they need you. Right now all they want you to do is to sympathetically lend your ear! It is always advisable to be a good listener. ~Latika Teotia

You are a work in progress !!!

You don’t have to be too harsh on yourself when things go wrong and punish yourself for every mistake- in fact I feel that you don’t need to chastise yourself at all. When we condemn or castigate ourselves for any folly, we are letting loose an air of negativity- punishments have this uncanny trait of lowering the morale and bringing gloom all around. So, it’s okay to commit mistakes- we all do- learn from them and move ahead. ~Latika Teotia

Be Understanding !!!

Whenever I feel tempted to judge others through the prism of my limited view, I shift my focus to understanding them. Whenever I am about to lose my temper and throw a fit, I imagine the other person to be a small child. This automatically calms me down and makes me more sympathetic.
~Latika Teotia

Practice compassion !!!

All human beings evolve and grow with the passage of time- some are fast others take their own sweet time in doing so. It’s not for you to be judgmental about them, show patience, empathy and compassion. ~Latika Teotia

Happy Valentine’s Day !!!

Most of us long for one soulful relationship which can help us to carry on with life and are disappointed when we fall short of such expectations. We get hurt when we face rejections or betrayal. On this Valentine’s Day, stop the hunt for that perfect connection with someone else and build a relationship with your own self. Make it complete and fill it with love by ignoring your short comings and your imperfections. Forgive your wrongs and give yourself all the love you expected from others. Make a promise that henceforth you won’t be hard on yourself. Never be self critical and never ever have poor self esteem about your own self. ~Latika Teotia

Step Up !!! Forgive !!!

When we get hurt or jilted or have been the victim of something, the first reaction is to seek revenge. We get so blinded by our anger that we forget that the Lord had said that vengeance was His. We forget that forgiveness brings better peace than does revenge. Why poison someone when you can do the same thing with sweetness? I will narrate a small story to illustrate my point.

A farmer had a neighbour who was a hunter and who owned ferocious but poorly trained hunting dogs. They frequently jumped the fence and chased the farmer’s lambs. The farmer asked his neighbour to keep his dogs in check, but it fell on deaf ears.
One day the dogs jumped the fence and attacked the lambs severely injuring several of them in the process. The farmer had had enough, and went to the town to complain. The wise judge listened patiently to his woes and then said, “I can punish the hunter and instruct him to keep his dogs chained or lock them up. But you would lose a friend and gain an enemy. Which would you rather have, friend or foe for a neighbour?” The farmer replied that he preferred a friend.
“Alright, I will offer you a solution that will keep your lambs safe and will also help in keeping your neighbour a friend.” He heard the judge’s solution and agreed to give it a try.
Next day he took two of his best lambs and presented them to his neighbour’s two small sons. Naturally, they were thrilled with joy and began to play with them. To protect his sons’ newly acquired playthings, the hunter built a strong kennel for his dogs. Since then, the dogs never again bothered the farmer’s lambs. Out of gratitude for the farmer’s generosity toward his sons, the hunter often shared with the farmer the game he had hunted. The farmer too reciprocated by sending the hunter cheese whenever he used to make it. This way, within a short time, the neighbours became good friends.

It is said that you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. It pays to forgive, forget and move on. So keep your temper in control, overcome your desire for vengeance and free yourself from a self created prison.
~Latika Teotia

Live a life of goodness !!!

We are always in conflict with our own selves. There are two kinds of voices within all of us- the voice of love, empathy, compassion, reason, care for others and so on while the other one is of selfishness, greed, mistrust, jealousy, fear, anxiety and so on. The first voice is benevolent, kind, trusting, and benign; it can be related to our higher selves and puts us at ease. The other one is full of anxiety, distrust and fear; it relates to our lower selves and will never allow us to be at peace.

God created us in His own image, so we have no right to let Him down. Live a life full of care, empathy and compassion. Do not compare yourself with others, nor should you be overly concerned about what others might think of you or bother yourself if others are doing better than you. Just do what your conscience dictates to you; listen to the first voice and live a life of goodness.

Live to be a lighthouse !!!

Become a ray of hope for someone by helping them in whatever way you can to rebuild their life. Live to be a lighthouse for others and make the journey of your life worthwhile. ~Latika Teotia

Empathy wins hearts !!!

When people react or feel touchy over very small non issues, don’t take things to heart- be grounded and draw strength from your inner self. Be patient with them and learn to focus on the good in them. Ignore their shortcomings and stop seeing them through the magnifying glass of what you perceive to be right. After all they are human beings and you are not aware of their problems or what they have been through. Take time to understand people instead of forming opinions. Empathize with them, remember empathy wins hearts. ~Latika Teotia